Post # 1
I’m a May 2014 Bride & my Maids haven’t ordered their desses yet, are we behind?
Next, my Maid/Matron of Honor dropped out so now I have 2 Maids & a Matron. Do I now treat that position like the MOH?
Also, I just can’t really get their gifts together. I was thinking a monogrammed bag, wedding day jewelry, & a bling tshirt. Any thoughts?
Last thing, I initially tol. The florist that I wanted Gerberas, carnations, and Kermit mums in their bouquets but now I’m secondguessing the Gerberas because (this may be silly) they got slimey in an arrangement that I had this summer.
Okay, I’ve ranted enough. Your feedback is appreciated!
Post # 3
@ButterflyBride5: You matron of honour is your Maid/Matron of Honor, the only difference is that she is married, and the maid is not.
You still have 8 months until your wedding. Most bridal shops say 6 months, so you need to start working on it, but you aren’t in crisis mode yet. That also only applies if you are requesting bridal store gowns. If you are open to department stores or they pick their own, you have loads of time.
Re: their gifts. That is all stuff focused on your wedding. Would you be getting them monogramed totes, matching jewelery and these shirts if it was their individual birthdays? I suspect probably not. Take your wedding out of the occassion. A gift is something given that is FOR the recipient. Not something with strings attached, aka you will wear this jewelery for my event to make my pictures look pretty. They do not have to match (in fact I think it is preferable, since it’s unlikely they all have the same tastes).
Post # 4
@andielovesj: The goal originallu was to get the dresses from a department store, but they agreed on dresses from a bridal boutique. I will start considering some other options as some maids have had some financial priority changes.
The only thing that is wedding related is the jewelry, but I understand the sentiment behind your comment.
Post # 5
I agree with the pp re the thought that the gift should be something not related to the wedding and individualized. Are you planning on having them wear the bling T shirts to get ready? Is bling something you love? Or something you know they all love?
Also, give serious thought to whether these grown women want to carry a monogrammed anything. Can you not give them the bag you are thinking of without having it monogrammed?
I would put some thought to the individual likes and interests of each girl and get them something that they will cherish, use , and think of your wedding every time they do.
Post # 6
@julies1949: I hate bling actually. The only sparkles will come from my ering & bands. I Was trying to get something they’d like. The tote idea came from compliments about my Vera Bradley bag. Thanks for your comment.
Post # 7
No you have enough time to order their dresses. I wouldn’t wait more than 6 months before your wedding date though…just in case.
It’s up to you really – but I assume you mean you had a matron of honour as well as a maid of honour before the Maid/Matron of Honor dropped out? This just means they were two of the most special ladies in your life, so have a chat with your matron of honour and make sure she’s up to take on the role on her own. 🙂
I think jewellery for bridesmaids is always lovely – what were you thinking? A necklace, a bracelet? Maybe suit it to each lady, something that complements them and let them choose whether to wear it the day of the wedding or not. I think most of all a handwritten note to accompany whatever you choose for their gift is necessary. Just a little token letting them know how much they mean to you.
I like gerberas. They should be fine, your florist will probably make them the day before the wedding and they should last…as long as you are wrapping a ribbon or something around the stems, don’t worry about the slimey factor.
Post # 8
@ButterflyBride5: Try etsy for their Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses if the girls are on a tight budget. I’m not sure what material you are looking into but chiffon is flattering on most body types and I’m suggesting knee length to cut down on price of alterations. Just a suggestion though!
Post # 9
@jlc3: thank you very much. I recently purchased clutches in their favorite colors and I’m having a custom piece made for each; a bracelet, a hair clip, & earrings. And yes, the bridal shop said they have to order in Dec. Enjoy the rest of the holiday weekend!
Post # 10
@lindseyl06: thank you! We found a shop in Delaware which is awesome
b/c no taxes so everyone has the 2nd strand of dresses in their budgets.