(Closed) Dresses I like are similar to a close friend's!

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 1
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Hi bees,

About a year and a half ago, I went dress shopping with one of my childhood friends who had recently gotten engaged. She found a great dress – full tulle ruffled skirt with a swiss dot, natural waist, sweetheart neckline. Shabby chic, looked great on her. She bought it that day and I haven’t seen it since.

Fast-forward. I got engaged in June and just started dress shopping about a month ago. I’ve decided that I love the natural waist, big full ballgown look and I want some kind of texture on the skirt and a sweetheart neckline. I was looking at dresses with floral details on the skirt, or lace, etc. 

I went dress shopping this past weekend and fell in love with a dress that has a sweetheart neckline, natural waist, and very full ruffled organza skirt. It’s flowy and moves beautifully and I just love it.

She is now getting married in a few weeks and she just sent me pictures of her final dress fitting. 

The dress I love is SO similar to hers… I guess I had forgotten exactly what hers looks like, but oh boy, they’re similar. Granted, mine would be organza and have a lot of movement and I’d be dressing it up a bit with a floral accent at the waist. Hers is a very different fabric, less full, less movement, and has a different feel. However… they are both ruffled, natural-waist, sweetheart neckline gowns. 

Our weddings are a year apart, but I a) don’t want her to feel like I’m copying her dress and b) I want a really special, different, wow dress and I feeling less and less like that’s going to happen if my taste is so similar to hers! 

 Is it a big no-no for our dresses to be similar? She says she doesn’t mind and just thinks it’s funny that we have similar wedding dress taste because our day-to-day taste is very different. I just want us to both feel special and beautiful on our days!

What do you bees think? Open to all suggestions!!  

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@serajane:  do you have pictures? of her dress and the dress you are in love with?

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

I honestly wouldn’t worry about having a similar dress. I have two friends (who happen to be each other’s BF) who got married within a year of each other and they had VERY similar dresses. I also considered getting a dress that was similar (I ended up falling in love with an unexpected dress). If you truly love a dress that looks like hers, go for it! If it continues to bother you, try on other dresses…even dresses you wouldn’t expect to like. Trust me, “the one” might surprise you. But regardless it’s going to be your day and no one, including your friend, will think “OMG that looks like so-and-so’s dress” haha

 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

She does not have dibs to a dress style, but if it makes you feel less special then keep looking.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@serajane:  All the differences you say they have will add up, also they will look very different on each of you. Besides, the only ones who will even know they are similar are the 2 of you.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I wouldn’t worry about it, go with what you love.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

A year is a decent amount of time between weddings. I doubt that she will be worried about her wedding thunder being stolen by then, and enough time will have passed that you will still feel special on your wedding day.

Plus, you stated that your dresses are not the same. IMO, no bride has ‘dibs’ on all dresses similar to hers in any way (okay, maaaaaybe she has dibs on her exact dress), so I think you’re in the clear.

My advice: get the dress you love. Just avoid ruffling her feathers by not bringing it up until her wedding is over.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Don’t worry about her dress- you’re both going to look amazing. The weddings are also a year apart, so there’s next to no chance that anyone but the two of you will notice the similarity of dresses. Maybe do your hair differently, or your make up, if it really worries you. But your weddings will both be spectacular- no worries!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

It’s totaly different. no worries. I think most similarities lay in the material and silloette. Yours is organza. TOTALY DIFFERENT!! I wouldn’t worry too much

Do you know how many wedding dresses are natural waist, ruffled and sweatheart?! Common!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

a year apart, no one will remember her dress… not even you! lol. i would only say think twice if it’s taken some of the specialness away for you personally, but really i dno’t think it matters. it’s not just you and her with sweetheart poufy dresses! i’d just enjoy!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Not that big of a deal. There are SO many wedding dresses that look alike- after all they’re all white and floor length and mostly strapless. No one is going to notice the similarity.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

um, my best friends wife and i had the SAME exact dress.  And they got married 2 weeks before we did.  We laughed about it after the fact – I had no idea till i saw her walking down the aisle.  If you have similiar guests, have faith that none of them will remember how one dress looked vs the other (i.e. our similiar guest didn’t even realize they were the same).  And as already mentioned, it will look different on you than it did on her just by nature of accessories, the wedding venue etc etc. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

A few months before I got married I went dress shopping with a friend who recently got engaged. Of course I had my dress and everything was set in stone. She was pulling dresses that were very similar to mine and I really didn’t care. We have similar taste when it comes to dresses and clothing so it made sense.

If that is the dress you like then don’t worry if it is similar to hers. It will be a year apart and no one will notice. On top of it I’m sure your accessories will be different which will give the dress a different feel to it. I believe completely that she is not bothered if your dresses are alike.

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