- 6 years ago
I haven’t been a bride, but I have had my first go ’round of bridesmaiding, and I have a (likely controversial) declaration to make about bridesmaids’ dresses:
Please don’t feel pressure to choose a bridesmaid’s dress that you think your girls will wear again! Why? Because no matter how hard you try, 9 times out of 10, we are NOT going to wear them again!
This comes with so much love, because I know a lot of brides are great friends who want their bridesmaids to feel good about the money they’re spending on the dress/look their best on the day of the wedding.
What should be important is that the dress chosen doesn’t offend any of the ‘maids’ figures, and that it compliments the wedding. Period!
When I agree to be a bridesmaid, I 100% accept the fact that I am going to purchase and wear a dress that someone else picked out for me. It’s just a part of the gig. I have no expectation that I’m going to want to wear the dress again, and that’s okay!
One of my best friends picked out a dress that she sincerely thought we could wear again. We didn’t love it, and kept that to ourselves.
At the wedding, we were all surprised to get a lot of compliments from guests about the dresses. Whether they were sincere or not, it did not change the fact that none of us wants to wear the dress again.
It might not even be that the dress is unattractive- everyone has her own sense of style and taste. As women, we all know this! So even if one of your bridesmaids likes the dress enough to wear again, chances are slim that another girl is going to feel the same way.
Think about it: when was the last time you and your friends all bought the same dress while shopping? You all have different bodies/coloring/taste. Just because a dress “can” be worn again doesn’t mean that it will, so don’t worry about it!
I’m not trying to discourage brides from being thoughtful, nor am I saying that bridesmaids should be okay with wearing potato sacks. I’m just saying that the goal of choosing a dress that your girls will “wear again” is not a good use of energy for a bride who has a lot on her plate!
Your girls will wear what you want them to with a smile, and you’ll return the favor someday.
Just enjoy yourselves!