- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
It has been such a tough week for me, so many family issues and i have been crying so much lately. Yesterday i had a meeting with my dressmaker, but first i will give you some background:
Even before i was engaged i was eyeing out the Aglaya Dress by Elie Saab for Pronovias, it was for me the perfect wedding dress. So i went the only store in Sydney to try it on, and it was even MORE beautiful than in the photos.. but i did not anticipate that the price would be $15,000. Here in sydney, alot brides do pay alot of money but thats ussually when their parents are well off. My Mother-In-Law saw the dress and god bless her offered to pay for it, but i am too stubborn and independent for that.. I wanted to pay for a dress on my own, infact i have no family financial support whatsoever.
Never the less, that amount of money is WAY too much and although the dress was amazing i felt it could be recreated by a great dressmaker. So my Mother-In-Law suggested a dressmaker she has been to for alterations and i had a wonderful meeting and felt more than comfortable, so comfortable that we had told her the price of the dress before she quoted me (she ended up quoting me $4000 just to make minus materials) (BIG mistake). I even took her to see the dress in real life. In saying this i know it would never be exactlly the same, she promised me it would be even better…
Six months later, or should i say $7800 later with $1800 to go i feel beyond depressed.. The dress is so ugly, i mean i am not exaggerating it is not even something i would consider trying on in a store. And its like when i make suggestions to how i would like it she gets angry. I am such a quiet person so even my suggestions are : “umm, i think maybe if its okay with you and not too hard it might look nicer if the flowers were smaller” etc. I can tell in her attitude that she is angry. And she keeps mentioning money.
A major part in the dress is the sort of textured detailing.
She had showed me the bodice with flowers the size of my hand that looked no joke like this
(In Ivory and Lace ontop)..
I dont know where she got these flowers from, but she has stuck them on the dress without even asking it looked like a joke i almost screamed in shock. She has seen the dress, how could she think this is the same thing?
Afterwards i was in tears, i just gave up..i dont care anymore there is so much going on with my family that i cannot be bothered. My Mother-In-Law felt so upset too she kept saying she felt responsible and i kept trying to reassure her that it soo not her fault we both trusted this woman. She insisted that we make the tulle detailing and the dressmaker attaches them but i was angry..why should i pay her and shes not doing her job? But i realised that may be the only way i will actually wear the hideous thing if i did the flowers myself.
The dressmaker even had the gall to say “thank you so much, because i was going to charge you extra for the flowers” i was like are you #&@%ing kidding me!
Sorry for the long post, but i need opinions and advice 🙁 did anyone else have a bad dressmaker experience?