Post # 1
We are getting married on a Saturday in the fall with a full meal and open bar. That is all figured out. Here’s the lead up to the questions…as our families live 6 hours apart and just about everyone must travel to attend our wedding which is being held at a country inn, the venue has offered to host a BBQ for our families to have a casual dinner (it is still being prepared by a 5 star facility…they are just going all rustic for us…I honestly think the chef is beside himself with excitement at the prospect) so the families can mingle before the big event on Saturday. The catch is that they need us, for administrative purposes, to use drink tickets for all beverages as the bar is open to other guests of the inn because it is a Friday night. So, how many tickets do I give each guest (we are paying $5 a ticket and they are for all beverages except water, tea and coffee). Given that not everyone is a drinker, people will have travelled that day and the wedding is the next morning I am not expecting to be paying for a large number of heavy drinkers, but I don’t want to appear cheap either. I was thinking of making them look less offensive by DIYing something and placing them as part of the table settings.
Post # 3
A friend of mine’s in laws did this for their rehersal dinner, and because the bride’s father is a partier, they gave everyone two tickets. After that you could pay for more drinks. It was in the city, so everyone drove to it, and that cut down on alot of drinking, as everyone was from about 20 min out and still had to drive home and be ready for an 11am wedding.
No one was offended and that was the first time I’d ever seen that, the tickets looked like amusment park ride tickets.
Post # 4
Are you doing a welcome bag/basket for Out of Town guest? If so could you possibly include maybe 2 tickets per person with an accomidation note included?
Post # 5
I think that 2 tickets per person would be appropriate. If there are quite a few non-drinkers, they will give their tickets away to people who would like to drink more.
Post # 6
@blueberrygirl: hmm, that is tricky. are your guest tables going to be in a private area? if so, i’d say that your idea about leaving the tickets on the table would be perfect. also, maybe try and spread the info via word of mouth so people know that the bar is open to everyone at the venue, and they’ll need a drink ticket for your event.
Post # 7
So the issue is not that you don’t want to pay for unlimited alcohol for your guests, but that you will somehow need to give them the tickets and are wondering how to do so, from a logistical standpoint?
Instead of tickets – could the venue give bracelets? I feel like tickets could get lost, but if I’m wearing a bracelet and the bartender sees it, he/she will know to charge you for the drink rather than the guest.
Post # 8
You didn’t mention soft drinks being included? If you have to buy tickets for soft drinks, then you need more than 2 per person. I would say at least 3.
Post # 9
I’m unclear if you’re pre-paying for each ticket or if the hotel only charges you for every ticket they receive back at the bar? If you are pre-paying and you buy more tickets than are used, will they refund your money for the unused ones?
If yes, than I agree with PPs that two tickets each is a good start. If people want more, you and your husband can have a stash of them with you and hand out as needed. And if you end up in a private area, you can put out little bowls/little boxes with a couple of extra tickets.
Post # 10
I would give each person 2 or 3…however, couldn’t you put the word out for people to tell the bartender that they are a member of your party, so the venue could keep track?