Post # 1
Hi! We were planning on giving each guest (over 21 of course) 3 drink tickets to use at the bar for the whole night that would be good for any drink they would like. I want to do this because if I do an open bar to a certain amount I’m afraid the younger guests will just order a ton of drinks super early on and the older guests might not get a fair share.
Did anyone else do / planning on drink tickets? How did you pass them out and did it work well?
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
I assume you would just leave them at every person’s place setting.
Post # 4
I don’t know… perhaps include them in the invitation??
Post # 5
Drink tickets are really not cool at weddings. It looks to your guests like you’re pinching pennies. Perhaps you could do open beer and wine bar, and cash bar for liquor instead, to control costs.
Post # 6
I would not include with the invitations. One more thing to remember if I’m traveling for your wedding? No thanks.
I’d think just putting at your place settings would be fine. But truly, I wouldn’t worry about older guests getting their “fair share.” If they want it, they’ll get it.
Post # 7
I was part of a fundraiser earlier this year where we gave all attendees 3 drink tickets when they arrived (they had to check in). Maybe you could somehow incorporate the drink tickets into the place/escort card?? That would probably be the easiest way to make sure everyone who was old enough to drink had their drink tickets.
Post # 8
There are lots of debates on here about whether this type of thing is proper etiquette or not. This is my opinion and I know many agree with me. At the same time, others disagree, so take it as you will.
When you’re hosting an event, you should properly host. That means that guests should not have to pay for anything and things should not change after a certain amount has been spent or amount of time (i.e. what happens after 3 tickets, cash bar?). Instead, I would host what you can afford (i.e. beer/wine/signature drink) and leave it at that. Don’t have a cash option. Don’t give out drink tickets. Just host your guests and leave it at that.
Post # 9
@engleman10513: don’t include them with the invites, people will forget them.
i would suggest including them in an envelope with the escort card. these small envelopes are not very expensive. i think these one look great.
Post # 10
Where I live cash bars are totally the norm and drink tickets are a pleasant bonus 🙂 Don’t include them in the invite tho, just leave them at the person’s place setting.
Post # 11
@engleman10513: I don’t see anything wrong with drink tickets. It’s far better than a cash bar, IMO. And 3 drinks is plenty for an adult guest in one evening. People who don’t want theirs can always give theirs to other guests. Quick question though: are drink tickets required for softdrinks as well?
Post # 12
Cash bars are very normal, sometimes full cash or toonie bar, drink tickets are a nice gesture.
Were doing drink tickets too, 3-4 per person which is plenty! Drink tickets can be redeemed for an alcoholic drink they would like. Water, juice and softdrinks will be free though, they dont need a ticket for that. We’ll have them at each place setting. Then have the bridal party use word of mouth to let guests know, so letting people know at the bridal shower, Bachlorette/Bachelor Parties, parents can let older relatives know etc. so no one is surprised at the reception.
Post # 13
I’ve never heard of drink tickets.
Post # 14
Agreed- try to include them in an escort card or something similar when they get there, not the invitation itself.
I don’t buy the whole “if you serve it, it must be FREE ALL NIGHT!!!” No. Just no.
Why you ask?
Well, if you’re providing food, I’m assuming you have a set amount for each guest, especially plated dinners. So if they want more food, should they demand it? Hell no. They can wait for cake. Or run to McD’s. You shouldn’t be expected to serve them a second dinner just because they want more food.
I see these drinks as the same.
Post # 15
I would also put it as each place setting. That being said, I wouldn’t worry about the younger folks taking over the bar before the older folks do. Many older folks don’t want alcoholic drinks anyway or they consume maybe only a glass or two (of wine). The younger folks, assuming they are responsible people, will consider the issue of having a Dirty Delete, so it’s not like both halves of a couple are going to down 7 drinks a person or something. In addition, assuming your guests possess some level of class, they are not going to drink so much that they are plastered.
So personally, I would just leave it an open bar. However, if you must do it, the place setting option is much better.
Post # 16
@Apple_Blossom: but you wouldn’t expect the guests to redeem a coupon to get their meal, even if you were doing a buffet and trying to protect them from another guest eating more than their “fare share.”
The drink tickets become a form of currency, since they can be exchanged for goods (in this example, they are exchanged for a drink and have a set value, for example it’s enough to redeem for a glass of wine but not for a bottle), and it’s really not proper to mix a social event such as a wedding with a business transaction such as the host/hostess giving the guests currency. I’m sure I’m not explaining it right. Drink tickets are fine for business events, charity parties or events for which you pay admission. Not for events in which there is a designated host or hostess. It’s just not hospitable. You’re saying “I am showing you my hospitality, but only to a point” and, frankly, there are far better ways to control your budget.