Post # 16
I think drink tickets are fine idea. I’ve been to weddings and they were a non-issue. Very few people ended up paying for extra drinks because there were plenty of people not drinking who passed their tickets along. You might also consider getting table wine.
Best of luck. Also beware the people who will tell you anything other than an open bar is tacky! This may be true for some areas of the world but varies by culture and location. This forum: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/for-fun-what-debatable-etiquettes-for-a-wedding-are-acceptable-where-you-live/ Has people posting from all different areas that can help you figure out whether the no-open bar thing is truly tacky for your circumstances.
Post # 17
Hi all- I did not want to start a big debate, sorry for that. <br /><br />We are choosing to have a more casual reception, and we will not be paying for anything alcoholic unlimited. It will also be earlier in the evening, and right next to a lot of bars. If guests want to choose to go to a bar after the ceremony for more of that kind of fun, then they can. That is their choice. We strongly believe that everyone will be able to have fun without alcohol, but understand that some people may one or two, therefore we want to give that to them. <br /><br />
It is not uncommon to have completely cash bars here, and most guests are local. We are both 23, paying for the wedding with very little help from our families, and while we are not cheap (We’re inviting 300 people, and having excellent food) we are not comfortable paying for all drinks for everyone.
<br />Thanks for the suggestions everyone! If anyone has used drink tickets, I’d love to talk with you :]
Post # 18
- Wedding: November 2015 - Old Mill Boathouse
I was just about to say it’s funny how the wedding is all about the couple getting married until it comes to the alcohol and what other people are expecting lol!
OP personally I am limiting alcohol to beer, wine and a serve yourself mimosa bar, but my wedding is a lunch wedding on a Sunday so I can only assume that people aren’t going to get pissed, and am keeping my budget down that way.
I should also add, I don’t think that the drink tickets are tacky!
Post # 19
Hi, if a guest didn’t bring any money, then they wouldn’t have to have more than two alcoholic beverages. We are paying for lemondade/pop/juice drinks, so they will be fully hydrated and cared for just not drunk if they don’t want to pay for it. It’s uncommon to have open or hosted bars in this area, and we are also inviting a lot of friends (we are 23, our parents were also married at 23 and it’s very common here) therefore we are only using drink tickets, but want to figure out how they work logistically. Thanks for your input!
Post # 20
I do not see any issues with drink tickets. I am being forced to have a open bar. My in laws care more about the booze then anything else. Lots of people say having drink tickets look cheap. And MANY of our guest have said if it is not open bar they wont come because that is policing your guest. I do not see anything wrong with trying to save $$ and I don’t think average guest will judge you for that!
Post # 21
My experience as a guest was meh
They were in a basket that was set outside of the ceremony for folks to grab on the way out. My husband and I got put on present duty and we were busy putting presents in the car and didn’t get our tickets.
Later on at the reception, we couldn’t get a drink without the tickets, so my husband bought us our own. Then we were talking to another guest and they said, Oh I don’t even want my tickets and offered them up. We weren’t buzzin and left pretty early cuz it was a long day.