Post # 1
- Wedding: November 2014 - Mauritius
I was at a friends wedding reception this past Saturday, FI decided to invite a few of the other couples who were also only invited to the reception to our place for some food etc before we went and to share a cab. Usually I can have quite a few glasses of wine/champagne without feeling too affected, however Saturday was a different story! Although I am not a heavy drinker for the past 8 weeks I have pretty much cut it out completely since joining Slimming World, this along with the fact that I have lost weight and not eating as much I got slightly more affected than usual!
Friends came over about 6.30pm and we left for the reception at 8pm, I was starting to feel fairly drunk at this point, we got there, made our rounds, said hi to the bride/groom, their families, then all of our friends, there was still loads of free wine and champagne there so my FI got me a glass, I think then I must have been handed a few more. So then fastforward to Sunday morning, and I have a pretty hazy memory of actually getting home, I start to feel that absolute dred that I have made a fool out of myself (I NEVER get this drunk, at most tipsy a few times this year). We find out that I didn’t make a fool out of myself and most people were drunk anyway, and that I had started to say I felt unwell and we said our goodbyes to the bride and groom, thanked them for inviting us etc and then went home, we called the taxi at 10.45pm which must have meant it was at the venue around 11pm, this means we were only there 3hrs!!
I felt terrible, I spoke to the bride and a few of my girlfirends and they hadn’t remembered me doing anything bad etc just that we left a little earlier than everyone else (they were there until about 1am). So, generally it wasn’t as bad as it could have been. Now my problem is, I get married in 6 weeks and the reception 2 weeks later (we are getting married in Mauritius and having the reception when we return with all our friends and family) and I am seriously considering not drinking after this!
Myself, FI, our family and friends are all social drinkers, we all drink when we go out or are at special events etc (unless someone is driving) and so I would like to enjoy myself and have a few glasses of champagne, however before that was no problem, hardly even affected me, now with the weight loss, lack of drinking and not eating so much I don’t know if I can be trusted! I don’t want to get drunk and pass out half way through the night! I have never been like this before, I don’t know if it was a one off or that’s just how I am now!? Are any of you planning on not drinking (if you usually are a drinker) or are drinking but have a plan (i.e. only start drinking past a certain time)?
Post # 2
Ha ha, I was once a guest at a wedding where the bride totally micromanaged the bridal party, including setting out dedicated times for them to be allowed to drink– which, after seeing the bridal party after the bride’s “rules” were no longer in place, was actually very smart of her. They were all hammered and if she hadn’t told them specifically that they were not allowed to drink before a certain time, and only allowed 1 beer per hour until another certain time, there would have been bridesmaids and groomsmen falling over everywhere!
Anyway it is a very real concern and good on you for recognizing that you don’t want to be blitzed at your own wedding. Perhaps stick to wine spritzers which are half wine, half club soda or tonic water, which are nice and festive but also you need to drink about 2 gallons of them to get drunk 🙂
Post # 3
UKbee: Ya, I’m a social drinker as well, but if i’m nervous and it’s free that gets paired with even more alcohol and less food than regular. We got married at an all-inclusve resort so there was no end to the drinks! My plan worked pretty well, and I didn’t get smashed or anything… I spent the day before the wedding drinking just lightly- and downing tons of water and eating regularly. Then the day of it was pretty much water all day long and remembering to eat- I had room service bring me up 3 dishes around lunch time & I just snacked on those while I was getting ready until our photog got there maybe 4-5 hours later. I had one drink before the ceremony, but it was literally right before, plus champagne for a toast afterwards. Once we got to dinner I had a couple mixed drinks, but we didn’t have anything planned after dinner anyway so it was ok!
Just make sure you are loaded up on water & food so your body can metabolize the alcohol properly. When you are stressed or nervous you tend to not eat/drink enough food/water so you have to try to makeup for that…
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2014 - Mauritius
BeckyS0: I know exatly what you mean about feeling nervous/stressed and not eating enough. For some reason I was having a bit on an anxious day (not sure why but tend to have sparadic anxiety attacks now and again) and so I didn’t eat much of the take out before we left and while we were drinking, and don’t think that I ate any of the food actually provided at the reception. Good plan, thank you 🙂
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2014 - Mauritius
Horseradish: Haha I have never heard of a bride doing that before! I think the mix of relief that things have gone well, the excitment of the day, the free alcohol etc all adds up to everyone being so very drunk usually! I just felt bad I ended up leaving after 3hrs! Good idea with the wine & soda (I tend to drink this a lot anyway, maybe should have on Saturday!)
Post # 6
I actually found it hard to get drunk at my wedding. I barely felt tipsy. I wouldn’t worry…getting drunk isn’t the worst thing in the world. I’m sure no one even noticed. At your own wedding, just have fun and focus on your new husband!
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2014 - Restaurant
I think this happens from time to time to ANYONE who enjoys a nice beverage. I know it’s happened to me at quite a few weddings, lol. Just be glad you didn’t embarrass yourself after all. I think you are just feeling jolted by what happened but you’ll be back to normal soon – I wouldn’t say not to drink at your own wedding because of it! Just use it as a learning experience as to how much you can drink now that you’re thinner/eating less! At least you learned now and not at your wedding!
Post # 8
It was impossible for me to even catch a buzz at my wedding. I drank a ton of drinks but my body just wouldn’t allow me to get drunk. I was so amped up from the nerves and trying to make sure everything was going good at the beginning of the day that I just never felt the alcohol.
Post # 9
I don’t think you should feel ashamed. It happens! Just cut back a little. If you usually have 3 glasses of wine, keep it to 2, etc. I usually am tipsy after 2, pretty drunk at 3, way too drunk at 4. Sometimes I forget how many I’ve had and get to 4, but I realize it right away and stop. Just find that number for you and keep to it.
Post # 10
I feel like I drank quite a bit on my wedding day, but I think because my adranaline was really up or something, I only felt a tiny bit tipsy at the end of the night.
I have been to a couple weddings where the bride and/or groom was noticably (by me, at least) drunk. but even in those situations they did NOT make fools of themselves, they just seemed really happy and excited about the day (which all brides are on their wedding day, regardless of drinking).
I think it’s right of you to keep it in mind so that you don’t go totally overboard, but I don’t think it should prevent you from enjoying a drink or two (or three!) on your wedding day, if that is what you normally do on happy, social occasions. Just remember to eat. 🙂
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2014 - Mauritius
I think the fact that the reception is not on the same day I am getting married I won’t have quite the same set of nerves etc. We get married on 14th November then the reception is the weekend after we get back on 29th November so not sure how I will be feeling by then! Doesn’t matter too much on our actual wedding day/night as it will just be us too loons 🙂 good to know that I am not the only one that is/was worried or thinking about this 🙂
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX
UKbee: My wedding was on Saturday and I’m normally a fairly big social drinker. I barely drank at the wedding. There just wasn’t time! I spent all my time talking to people or hitting the dance floor. I maybe had 2 drinks over the 4 hours. Now at the hotel bar afterwards, that’s when I got a bit drunk lol.
Post # 13
UKbee: My DH and I have been social drinkers with our friends for 10+ years now, and at our wedding 4 months ago, all I had was a glass of wine at the reception, some champagne on our bus on the way to pictures, and my glass of toasting champagne at dinner! I was essentially stone sober the whole time!
I didn’t honestly plan on being that way, but once the ceremony was over, I was ready to have a bit of champagne (which we did on the bus) and then took pictures for about an hour/hour and a half and I didn’t have anything else to drink. It was warm, so when we got back and sat down for dinner, I mostly just wanted water. I drank my glass of champange for toasts, but I had just eaten, so I wasn’t feeling it at all. By the time we snuck out for some sunset pictures, we had our first dance, cake cutting, father-daughter, mother-son dances, I had only been drinking water. My aunt went to get me some wine after that, but between making rounds to tables and dancing with friends, I was drinking slowly. After I was finished, again, I wanted water because I was hot from dancing and dehydrated from the day in general. I didn’t get drunk at all, but I had a great time anyway!!
I think that you should try to pace yourself, and maybe have a drink or two but don’t overdo it. You don’t want to be sick in your dress, or have to leave your own reception early! I thought I would drink much more than I did, but I just got caught up in the evening and it was a wonderful time anyway. I say have fun, and drink lots of water if you’re going to drink alcohol as well!
Post # 14
UKbee: I’m a social drinker too, and so is most of my family. I would hope they enjoy the wine I provide them. Not to the point of making stupid things of course (but I’ve personnally never seen anyone that drunk in any social or family event with those people) but laughing out loud, talking loudly and having a good time, absolutely. As long as nobody’s driving, it wouldn’t bother me. There’s funny drunk and there’s completely wasted. I would enjoy the first one (both as a bride and as a guest) and would absolutely hate the second one.
Post # 15
I drank at my wedding but I wasn’t drunk. My husband on the other hand…
You’ll probably be too busy socializing with your guests to get hammered but self control is important. Have a few glasses of wine then cut yourself off if you feel like you’re getting out of hand.