(Closed) Drinking during the TWW?

posted 9 years ago in Babies
Post # 32
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

@panterapeach: Yeah…shots are a different story!

Post # 33
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Blushing bee

We’ve already gone through 10 cycles of TTC and nothing. At this point I’ve got to keep living my life and not putting everything on hold for two weeks of every month. I don’t really drink much to begin with – maybe a glass of wine a week. I also have a weakness for sushi. I try to be good during the TWW, but I’m not going to beat myself up if I have a glass of wine or some sushi. Once the test turns pink then I’ll follow all the guidelines. I think it’s really a personal decision.

Post # 35
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@panterapeach:Believe it or not, I heard that trick from a recovering alcoholic. Apparently it’s really hard for them to stop drinking and have a normal social life because there is so much pressure in our society to drink all the time. They say (not sure I agree) that behind all the pressure is other people’s insecurities about drinking — i.e. others feel like they are in control if everyone else is drinking at the same level.

Well, whatever the reason, I do find it pretty weird that grownups are so into “peer pressure” — why do people need a reason as personal as “I’m trying to conceive” or “I’m taking medicine” to leave you alone about not drinking alcohol?

Anyway, glad you survived the night and good luck getting that “+” !

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I had no idea I was pregnant and drank like a fish until I took a test at 4weeks-we were on our honeymoon in France for two weeks, helloooo wine! our normal weekend routine consisted happy hour, wine with dinner , mimosas at brunch, and I usually would have a glass of wine when I came home from work.  My doctor said that was fine as long as I stop ASAP. I’m not saying to go get shitfaced, but most of my friends who have kids were in the same boat and they have nice,normal children.

Post # 39
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’m not a huge drinker, but wouldn’t hesitate to have a glass of wine during the TWW (I had one yesterday, as a matter of fact.) I think people tend to get WAY paranoid about doing anything that could remotely hurt the baby with TTC and pregnant, to the point where the stress worrying over such things could be more detrimental to the fetus than just having the darn glass of wine, already!

Like others have said before, you don’t even share a blood supply with the fetus until after implantation, so how is that one glass of wine going to even logistically have an effect on the fetus? 

I’m firmly in the “everything in moderation” camp.  Tying yourself in knots over what you should and shouldn’t do isn’t any better for the baby than having that cup of coffee or glass of wine while waiting to test.  I think it’s far more important to stay relaxed and calm while TTC than trying to make sure you’re being an absolute model of virtue the entire time.

Post # 40
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Given that the brain and spinal cord begin developing before a positive pregnancy test, I advise all my patients not to drink anything alcoholic.   I recently was having a conversation with some friends (all physicians, including an OB) discussing how doctors know it’s best not to drink but how hard it is to tell someone they might have harmed their baby.  The “You’re probably safe but don’t do it anymore” is often a polite way of saying, “You put your baby at risk but since you can’t change it, what point is it in saying so and I don’t want to hurt your feelings.”  While it may not be the right thing to do, doctors are human.

Post # 41
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Sugar bee

Another option to avoid pressure to drink is to volunter to be the DD! My dad recently gave up alcohol but has a tradition of tailgateing prior to an NFL game with high school buddies once a year that often involves heavy drinking. Someone else drove but once he mentioned that he was not drinking, his friend happily turned over his keys, enduldged a bit more and no one pressured my dad to drink because he was doing them the favor of bringing them home safely. At most, your friends will expect you to have one drink early on if you are driving.

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