Post # 17
@bells: What happens if you call out someone who you think is a troll and not? Feelings get hurt and to make a mockery out of “if someone is cheating” or not is it not for us to judge. I just find calling out someone very immature. The thing is all message boards will have their share of trolls, a person just has to learn to figure out if what they are reading is believeable or not.
Post # 18
personally… the whole emotional part of the boards is kinda like my daily gossip fix …. I have no drama in my life.. so hey why not check out others… weird yes.. soap operaish … def… addictive… ZOMG!
Post # 19
A thread in the same style was closed yesterday by a mod.
Stop calling out people who are going through something painful like this. You’re being totally insensitive. We talk about diets, television shows, stress at our jobs, recipes, etc. This isn’t just a board for weddings, it’s a board to help support women with a common theme that happens to be weddings. We all go and get married and some of us will have to deal with infidelity, you may think that it can’t happen to you, but obviously it can. Put yourself in their shoes before you go creating a thread about a drinking game like it’s Jersy Shore. Shame on you.
Post # 20
To be fair that’s why its generally listed in emotional or relationships which I think is for those topics. If you aren’t interested you can either one not read it or two just stick to the board topics you want to read about. I think weddingbee has done a good job of allowing you to only see the types of threads you are interested in. I’d be fine if emotional was filled with cheating, breaking up, or any other… emotional topics 🙂
Post # 21
You guys who are starting these threads implying that the cheating threads are acting much more troll-like than the cheating thread starters.
If you don’t like the threads skip over them and quit your moaning and groaning and finger pointing, please.
Post # 22
i appreciate how kind hearted (really!) all of you who are sympathetic to all of these cheating threads, i think that it seems really WEIRD that four or five would pop up in a 24 hour period.
i’ve been on the bee for more than year now, and it really DOES seem like a lot.
i apologize for how “insensitive” the thread title came out as– i was seriously trying to be funny and NOT SO SERIOUS. especially since i actually do not drink at all. yes, i understand that there are probably real problems that some of these “brides” are dealing with, but this is an online forum! as much as we care, we won’t be able to fix their problem– we can offer support, but it’s THEIR problem to fix.
in general though, i’m starting to be less happy with the new atmosphere on the bee and have started contemplating leaving for good. i mean, hey, my wedding was over and it was great. *shrug*
Post # 23
I think my problem with the cheating threads is that they’re always posted under “annonymous” screen names of “bees who are regular posters but don’t want to give away their identity”. If you’re looking for real advice, I think everyone would take you much more seriously if you posted under your regular name and we knew 1) You’re legit and 2) Your general history. These people are asking for advice in a vacuum, which I find a bit suspect.
Post # 24
@CanAmBride: I agree with you. But I think it’s best to just give people the benefit of the doubt that they are indeed who they say they are (or not saying for that matter). The way I see it, even if there is the chance that someone is not genuine in their posting, there may be someone out there going through something similar and everyone’s advice and comments to a post could be helping them.
@iheartnerdyboys: I’ve been on here for a while and agree with you that there are more cheating posts than usual at the moment. Hopefully it’s just a coincidence.
Post # 25
Oh my goodness maybe I am a little delicate for this site because this to me is just horrendous. How anyone could make an immature silly alcohol game out of someone’s heartache is really just beyond me. None of you have anyway of knowing who is on the other end of the keyboard or if what they say is true. When you are on the internet you have to take these types of things at face value. You can’t point, laugh, mock and yell troll when you have no idea if you are wrong. Terrible. This was a bad day to check the board I guess.
Post # 27
@iheartnerdyboys: No worries I totally got it. And laughed:)
Post # 28
I’ve noticed them a lot lately as well, but pay no attention really. I do feel sorry for anyone who is going through some serious emotional trauma because of it.
Post # 29
There has been a ton of these lately I guess I should get drinking lol
Post # 30
@QuietOne: Care to post your source on that? That seems extremely high and I’m very doubtful that basically 1 in 3 men cheat.
Post # 31
I got it, laughed. Although, I can see the serious side to this too.
Females, especially, tend to communicate by relating stories. If your friend tells you a story on x, you can usually find something similar that’s happened in your life, and relay the story back.
Maybe that’s what’s happening? Some of these girls are seeing some braver bees post about their troubles, and it’s giving them the confidence to post their stories as well?
I dunno… but there are a lot.