Post # 1
So my cowokers threw me a surprise bridal shower which was so sweet of them to do. I was totally surprised!
I am not a very confident person however and don’t like attention on me, especially being in the centre of attention. I was read and just embarrased.
They of course (cuz its the way our company rolls) had drinks. So i had a glass of wine, dranked it a bit too fast and had another in hopes for the liquid confidence to kick in. I didn’t eat much that day becasue i had plans to make bigger dinner then normal (trying out a new recipe and since i count my calories…)
Then the girls started coming up to me with tequila shots etc… Quite a variety of mixes throughout a short period.
I had fun, they had fun. Some were being really silly but all was good. However near the end i had a breakdown and started crying becasue none of my family is attending the wedding and confided this info to 2-3 co-workers.
I don’t remember that. I also don’t remember getting upset at my fiance and tripping on my way to the car etc….
Lets say, everyone knew that i was not going to come to work the next day.
I guess maybe this wasn’t so bad, but the part that is it’s that my Fiance is the VP in this company. So i feel that it’s kind of embarrasing for him.
He was a little upset at me and i know why and all is good.
I just feel like crap 🙁
Haven’t heard anything negative from co workers. Tried to do soma damage control with the ones i confided to by calling them etc… they all assured me it’s ok, that its a very emotional time for me and i just needed to get things out.
But yet i still feel like poop
Anyone has ever done this ? or am i the only one on the embarrased train ?
Post # 3
@Lulume: Girl, I have embarrassed myself more times than I’d like to admit while drinking! I don’t think it’s ever been in front of co workers, but we’ve all been there. You called them and apologized; that’s all you can do! It will blow over.
Post # 4
One of my cousins got blackout drunk at a work lunch (she still swears she doesn’t know how it happpened), and danced on top of a bar… At LUNCH… In front of her co-workers.
Post # 5
@Lulume: I work as a job coach for people with special needs. I take them to work, and teach them how to work (usually retail).
At a relatively new placement (only been there with a student for 3 weeks) I ended up having a break down due to some issues with the wedding. I was crying, and felt like an idiot. The store manager talked to me, and was really nice to me. She said that until the wedding is over I’m going to want to put a bullet in my eye. LOL
I apologized for my unprofessional behaviour (I also am NOT a crier at all, so I was really embarrassed). Everything was fine, and the placement is still in my program and willing to take on more students.
People understand how hard weddings can be. It is very emotional and if your family isn’t coming that is extremely emotional.
The fact that they threw you a surprise shower was nice, but the fact that you don’t like being the center of attention (and I’m assuming they should know that) they sort of set you up.
My shower wasn’t a surprise, but i did hide in the bathroom a bit to get my breath, (and get away from my mother). I also did not let myself drink much (had a beer and one glass of rum punch).
Live and learn, and I would not worry too much about it. Everyone has these moments. It won’t be the last time something like this happens 😉
Post # 6
@Lulume: Oh honey…no one’s going to think anything bad about you or think less of you because you got a little shloshed and got it over with and had a good cry….I’ve done it, every lady there has done it and someday in the future, you’re going to be around someone else that does it and you won’t look down on her because you’ll remember what its like to be getting married, kind of drunk and then upset in front of a room full of co-workers.
THIS HAPPENS TO THE BEST OF US.
Welcome to the club, your membership card and t-shirt are in the mail.
Post # 7
Oh man, I’ve done that so many times when I was younger. I stopped going out with coworkers- my rule of thumb is I don’t go out with them if I dont regularly have them as guests in my home. Its working much better ha
Post # 8
Don’t worry about it!! We have all been there and done something we regret while drinking. If these co-workers threw you a surprise bridal shower, it’s probably because they think of you as their friend, and more than “just a co-worker”! So, think of it in that light … these are some of your friends, and it’s ok to drink a little too much, and have a good cry with friends. No harm done, and don’t beat yourself up over it!
Post # 9
@Lulume: Nah, we’ve all done something embarrassing. I used to work in an office that rolled like that too. Everyone just expected those sorts of embarrassing moments and if nothing else it just created fun material to talk about in the future. No biggie. Just roll with it and they will too.
Think of it this way. They’re the ones who planned the party and brought drinks for you (and probably somewhat knew that you’re not into being the centre of attention). They should have seen it coming.
Post # 10
I think you’re fine. We’ve all been there. Both with the drinking and crying. People understand a wedding is stressfull. I burst into tears when we were meeting with our pastor 2 night ago. It happens. Just try to calm your nerves (though probably not with alcohol!) and move on. No big deal.
Post # 11
@Lulume: ((HUGS)) Another one who hates surprises here!
Oh, hon, no need to feel embarrassed. Stuff like this happens to everyone, sooner or later, it’s nothing to dwell on or feel bad about. Just don’t mention it and everyone will forget about it.
Post # 12
This made me feel a bit better 🙂