(Closed) drinks at a wedding if parents don't agree?

posted 6 years ago in Food
Post # 3
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1037 posts
Bumble bee

@EatPrayLove:  Why are you parents and grandparents so against it can I ask?

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Who is paying for it? If you are, do it. If they are, you have to respect them. 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

I think vilifying fermented grapes is silly!  since everyone is pitching in on the finance front, everyone should get a vote or at least a say in the compromise you come to regarding this issue.  I have the champagne bottles from our engagement, our wedding, and every anniversary, champagne isn’t booze, it’s concentrated happy in a bottle!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@EatPrayLove:  So you should all come to the best choice. I know that if FI’s family wanted our wedding to be dry, that would NOT be ok for my family. It’s easiest to have it available for those who want it, than not have it at all. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If they are going to pull funding because you are having wine, it’s better to know up front. I would stand my ground and see what happens. If I had to pay for my own wedding to get what I wanted I’d rather do that then have a wedding that someone else wanted for me. But that is just my humble opinion! 🙂

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I also hope that, if they choose to pull funding and be upset at this, they also get upset everytime they walk into a restaurant, sporting event or store that sells alcohol as well. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Oh no! I has this same issue with my grandmonther. She grew up in a very religious and conservative family and was never allowed to dance or have a drink. Anyway, I told her we would have an open bar and our adult guests would choose whether or not they wanted a drink. I assured her everything would stay classy and I didn’t expect anyone would be obnoxiously intoxicated or anything like that. We had a serious conversation on how it is merely a difference of opinion and not a universal standard that everyone needs to adhere to just because that is what she believes. Overall I stood my ground in a respectful way and that worked for me.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We are having a dry wedding for the same reasons – except it is both sides of the family, mine and his!  It isnt worth the fight for us – we would rather not disappoint and not cause a fight over something that isnt going to make a difference.  We are having dinner and cake at the reception – and it should be finished early enough for all of our friends to go out afterwards!

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

@EatPrayLove:  LOL that’s hilarious. You could even make a little card to include with the invites for people you know are going to want to drink telling them that Cody will show them a good time, so that they know in advance and don’t think it’s weird. Or you could just spread the word 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I would openly have it for all my guests and not hide it, this would make your family and church friends more upset, your family and friends from church can choose not to drink. As a host you need to think of ALL your wedding guests. Good luck with your decision.

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