(Closed) Drinks, dancing and dessert, but no dinner at reception? Acceptalbe or lame?

posted 10 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I don’t think it would be cheesy at all!  Just make sure you plan time for everyone to get dinner.  My suggestion would be to start the festivities at 8 or 8:30pm — then it will be obvious to everyone that your reception is after the dinner hour and they shouldn’t expect a full meal.  I think a swanky evening cocktail reception would be classy and fun.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

You would need to plan your event to fall outside of a normal mealtime, like 2 PM or 9 PM – or whatever outside customary mealtimes are in that area (they do range quite a bit in different countries and cultures). If you invite people for a 7 PM party or a noon party, they will be hungry and want to eat! Also, make sure your invitation spells out what sort of reception it is – along the lines of "Celebratory drinks and dessert with the bride and groom at 9 PM." That way there will be absolutely no confusion – or grumbly tummies – among your guests.

But may I make a suggestion? Are many people traveling far for your wedding? If so, you may wish to consider finding room in your budget to feed them. After all, they would have spent an awful lot of money and energy getting to India. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2007

I think as long as you explicitly state that the reception is drinks, dancing, and desserts on the invitation, it’ll be fine.  I’ve only been to a couple of weddings in India (I’m not of that culture) and from what I’ve seen, gobs of food is customary.  However, prices are typically $4 per person (for outside caterers) for a buffet type setup (I know, multiplied by like 1000 or more people times 5 different events….it adds up!)

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

Totally acceptable its EXACTLY what I wanted to do and was denied it.  I am sure it will be so chic so enjoy!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

wait are you having your whole family fly to India and then not even feed them a meal???  i think that’s kinda mean…  i just flew to another state for an indian wedding and they feed us for 4 days straight…  but i mean it’s really up to you on what you want, but i would be kinda annoyed if i flew overseas and didn’t know the language/location and is expected to find my own food…. however if all your friends are local and you made the party later say 8 or 9PM i’ll be okay w/ that.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018 - The Desmond Hotel in Malvern, PA

Superstar, I think she mentioned in a comment above that all of the guests will be local; she is coming from long-distance and her family will not be there, so it is not a destination wedding for anyone other than the bride 🙂

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

I agree with Yach.  Prices are so much cheaper in India, especially for food.   Is the budget that tight?

Maybe I’m confused, because I seem to recall two dresses…

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • V
  • 10 years ago

I think is a bit ….lame… sorry!

You’re going to all the trouble of having the best hotel "classy, lavish, exquisite" but go cheap on the food? Your guest are totally gonna know where the food money went!

That said…if you make it an after dinner event…cocktails and dessert sort of invitation…it could work! Is this something acceptable in the region? not that it matters as you can do whatever you want…but it’s better to know and to let everyone know exactly what to expect. 

Good Luck! 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I feel bad, but I kinda agree with V.  It’s a little strange to have a reception at a fancy place when that means you can’t afford to feed your guests.

I have heard about people having fabulous dessert receptions, though.  Usually it’s later in the evening, and usually people provide a number of desserts — not just wedding cake.  I would really, really try to have as much food as possible.  Cut out any unnecessary expenses (flowers, decorations, fancy photography) to ensure your guests won’t go hungry.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • V
  • 10 years ago

I’m limiting mine to:

1. bubbly…weddings=bubbly, he he

2. Wine

3. Beer

At some point I was thinking of a signature drink but that involves Tequila…too much $…unnecessary, everyone I know drinks wine and/or beer…Tequila on the other hand is not for everyone.

Limiting your bar tab to exclude premium alcohol will definitely save you $! 

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