Post # 1
I am really at my wits end here. Do I drop my middle name or my maiden name. I love both of my names. Both start with the same initial as well. I have always loved my middle name but I also love the idea of keeping my Maiden Name in my name somewhere. I like knowing I can still carry that with me where ever I go. My name is both French and Italian. (No, I dont look the part… a pale skinned strawberry blonde. The nickname growing up by my father was, Carrot! Tehe). The married last name will be Pakistan. (Oh boy, I see trying to explain that to my future kids and their mixed up heritage)
Bees…. what did you do? What did/do you prefer? I’ve been trying to say it aloud and getting the feel of it roll off my tongue…. but I don’t know.
Post # 3
I completely understand your situation. I was sad about giving up both my maiden name AND my middle name so there was not a good answer. Finally, I decided to just do it traditionally and keep my middle name. My new name sounds better with my middle name and my maiden name will always be my maiden name. If you drop the middle name it just kind of dies. That has been my thought process, at least.
As a side note… I still get said about “losing” my last name from time to time. My wedding is coming up VERY soon and every time I sign my name now I’m like… “awe… sad face”. Haha.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2013 - B&B
I love my middle name. Part of it was tough because it’s probable that I’ll be the last one, in my branch of the family tree, to have the last name. So when I get married that will disappear. (Of course it’s a rather common last name.) But I love love love my middle name. So I’m keeping it!
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I never liked my middle name, so I had no problems getting rid of it.
Regardless, it’s been an easier transition to my new married name, having taken my maiden as my new middle. If I forget, and go to sign something as first-maiden, I can just add my last name at the end (my credit cards, for example, are first maiden last.)
So I don’t feel that I “lost” anything, I just gained another name. Facebook/emails for example, are first maiden last.
Post # 6
In my state, you are ONLY allowed to change your last name when you get married. So, I was stuck with either keeping my maiden name or changing my last name to my married name. I wanted to append (i.e., convert my maiden name to a second middle name), but I would have had to file name change paperwork in addition to my marriage paperwork. I decided it wasn’t worth the effort. But I was annoyed that I couldn’t have my first choice.
My business cards say [First] [Maiden] [Married] though, even though my maiden name is no longer part of my legal name.
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
If I had realized it was an option I would have hiphinated my middle name…
Your maiden name is Jane Marie Smith
Make your married name Jane Marie-Smith Jones
Unfortunately, I didn’t know I could do that, so my married name is Jane Marie Smith-Jones… except my “Smith-Jones” is 18 letters long– and with Juliette Elizabeth as my first and middle… My full name is a whopping 35 letters long… And doesn’t fit on ANY form 🙁
Post # 8
My sister just hyphenated her middle name. For example Jane Marie-Doe Smith. I love the idea of keeping the madien name as part of your name.
Post # 9
@juliette.eliza: Oops! Didn’t even see your post! But I totally agree! 🙂
Post # 10
I dropped my middle name and replaced it with my maiden. I didn’t really have any sentimental value to it, while I did with my maiden. I also have professional reasons for wanting to keep my maiden name in some capacity.
Post # 11
My middle name is the same as my mother’s middle name and if I ever have a daughter, I will pass it on to her. For that reason, I kept my middle name and dropped my maiden name.
Post # 12
I’ve never liked my middle name and I agree with everything rebwana said about the convenience of having your maiden name for a middle name. Plus, I think it’s the traditional way of changing your name. All of the women I know in my mother’s and grandmother’s generations changed their name that way. Unfortunately some states won’t let you do it that way anymore.
Post # 13
I hyphenated my last name, and kept my middle name. Kind of odd, though – I’ve always hated when my first and middle name were used as one first name, ala the south, but I use my initials on everything, so if I dropped my middle, it would be too hard. But I refuse to be called by my middle name.
Post # 14
I voted keep the middle, drop the maiden… Sounds like a political rally cry. LOL
Post # 15
Keep all of your names! I now have 4 names: “Jane Liz Smith Jones” (no hyphenation!) Uncle Sam is OK with me having 2 “middle names”, but I sign everything “Jane Smith Jones” .
I went this route since I keep my maiden name profesionally. It makes life easier when I go somewhere as “Jane Smith” and my ID still says “Jane Smith” (albeit…with “Jones” at the end)
Post # 16
I am dropping my first name which I hate everyone has known me by my first name for 40 years, but since I am getting a new last name I figure they can get used to calling me by my middle name. I love my middle name which is Kathryn, my first name is Brandi which I hate and always have.