Post # 1
Uuggh I’m so embarrassed. This happened last night and I’ve had a yucky feeling in my stomach ever since.
My family is very conservative and religious…in fact, so am I. I don’t particularly like to, or want to swear, however dh does it all the time that I ended up picking it up too. It’s gotten to the point where it slips out way too naturally, and those words have lost all meaning. I’ve been telling myself lately that I need to stop because I’ve never liked when swearing is used so lightly…I never would have imagined that I’d end up doing it. I don’t know how this happened 🙈
Anyway…so I’m in the car with my brother and we’re stopped at a red light. Two oncoming cars proceed to run the redlight, and without any hesitation I mutter “What the F?” Full stop. He just looks at me stunned and I immediately apologize and back pedal, he says it’s okay and we awkwardly change the subject. BUT THAT WASN’T THE LAST TIME. Later I’m showing him a video and say: “You see, it’s that F-ing thing that creeps me out” and again he looks at me stunned and I admit to him I’m struggling with this vice. He just changes the subject and kinda leaves me hanging, and maybe that’s why I still feel so guilty. To my family the F bomb is like the worst word you could ever use, and that was the first time I ever swore in front of anyone other than dh (although I’ve caught some near slips around other people who would be offended…another reason I need to stop).
I think if I personally believed that swearing is okay, I wouldn’t really care and I’d move on so much easier…but I don’t, and now I’m like forced fo face my guilt and it’s an awful feeling because I can’t take those words back, lol. Obviously there’s nothing that can be done now, it just feels better to vent this.
So what embarrasssing experiences have you had?…accidentally texting the wrong person, saying the wrong thing to the wrong person, etc.?
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2018 - City, State
You made an incredibly common human mistake. No one was harmed, it’s not the end of the world. You can apologize for using that language in front of your brother if you genuinely feel bad, but I’d mostly just recommend you try to be kind to yourself <3 It happens.
Post # 3
Haha, thanks for the kind words 🙂 I have been trying to laugh it off (and I’m sure looking back on this some day, I will be laughing) but the embarrassment is still so fresh, lol. I certainly don’t believe swearing is a cardinal sin or anything so I’ll probably be able to forget about it soon…since I woke up still feeling yucky, I just wanted to vent and get comfort from hearing how other’s moved on from honest mistakes
Post # 4
this is really cute, in the most innocent way 🙂
surely your family is no stranger to hearing this language on this planet. Let it blow over and if you’re really bothered by it, talk to your husband and make a swear jar 🙂
Post # 5
If you have a problem with using that language then that’s every reason to attempt to change your language ways, but your brother can (and should!) get over it.
Post # 6
My embarrassing thing was on my wedding day! Hubby and I were doing photos after the ceremony outside. Went to put things in the car, then head back in the church to get everything else before heading to the reception.
As we crossed the parking lot to the sidewalk, my brother was in his car and inched towards us to mess with me. I gave him the middle finger.
And a split second later realized my dad and his best friend (a Catholic priest) were in a nearby car, watching it all.
I’m even MORE embarrassed that the priest TOOK A PHOTO of “the lovely couple” all dressed up only to find I was making a face and you can see my finger in all its glory.
Post # 7
It sounds like you’ve been feeling like you should feel like you should change and your brother’s reaction (and obvious discomfort or judgment) brought that feeling up again.
However, I would also say that if it’s become a regular habit of yours (to the point that you’re swearing without thinking about it), maybe your perspective has evolved and you don’t need to try to “put yourself back into the box”.
You are an adult. Your mouth belongs to you. Your brother may prefer that you not swear and maybe you want to be more conscientious about your words around him. However, I also think it’s really valuable to examine why you think you should behave in a certain way, why the way you express yourself when relaxed around your brother brings up feelings of guilt and also why you have obviously embraced the Big Mama of the swear words!
As someone who has been saying things my family doesn’t necessarily like for many years (and I’m still thriving and loved in spite of it), I don’t think we’re being authentic when we live according to other people’s opinions or shoulds. It’s okay to change and evolve. Just make sure you are okay with the evolution of your identity. Are you still a kind person? Are you still loving and considerate? Are you dropping F-bombs all over your place of employment or in spiritual communities? Don’t beat yourself up for having eased some of the rigidity of your ideas of how you are allowed to behave in the world.
Post # 8
I hate when people act like they’re just soooooo fucking pure that hearing a curse word will just make their poor little heart stop. He is a grown ass man. He will get over it. I think the fact that you profusely apologized for your language is enough, as it shows you didn’t mean to disrespect his conservative ideals while you were having a conversation with him. I wouldn’t dwell on it.
Post # 9
that is freaking hilarious lmao do you have the picture?!
Post # 10
So my husband and I were traveling for a football game over Labor Day weekend and we took his dad and his uncle with us (both in their 70s and just don’t feel up to driving distances much anymore). Well, we were merging back onto the interstate after hitting a rest stop and this guy in a company van was screwing around, not paying any attention, and left a huge gap where my husband could easily merge. As soon as my husband started merging, this guy sped up and cut us off, then had the audacity to honk and flip us off. Without even thinking, I raised my fist and gave him the finger right back. He then slammed on his breaks on purpose, trying to get us to rear-end him. He kept giving us the finger so I kept giving it back, lol. We eventually passed him and I just waved sweetly. The funniest part was the look of shock on his face when he got a better look at me, this little benign looking girl. We met up with him a couple more times on the road but he would not look at us.
Anyway, I was so embarrassed that I had let my temper get the better of me, especially in front of my father in law and his brother, who are pretty religious/conservative. I was kind of mortified for a while, even though my husband assured me that it wasn’t as if they’d never used that gesture before and it wasn’t totally uncalled for. He also said, “Gotta love those mama bear instincts of yours!” haha. It’s true, though. Don’t mess!
Don’t beat yourself up too bad, Bee. You’ll get over it and so will your brother. Whether you’re okay with cursing or not, it really is still just a word, and you’re only human. Look at this as a growing opportunity.
Post # 11
Don’t worry about it so much! You’re an adult, you can swear if you want to. Pretty sure there isn’t even any mention about the F-word in the bible so you don’t have to worry about it on the religious front. There are far bigger things to worry about than saying a rude word (that wasn’t even directed at a person)
As for embarassing swearing stories to make you feel better: I was driving with my now-husband (then boyfriend) and his grandma up to a cabin. I’d only met his grandma a few times before, but we were bringing her to meet my family. Just a few minutes after we picked her up I had to merge back onto the highway at this really stressful spot, when this one guy that was massively speeding switched into the lane i was merging into to pass someone (totally illegal) and it scared the crap out of me so i yelled “HEY ASSHOLE!!!” Real great early impression. Fortunately she’s the sweetest so it was fine, but I was definitley inwardly cringing the rest of the drive.
Post # 12
Lol! This story is so bizarre to me. I get people are conservative but how can you honestly be a grown ass adult (and man) offended at another grown ass adult saying fuck…
Anyway am sure he’ll get over it and it’s kinda cute that even though your picking this “bad habbit” from your husband, you’re still aware of your family and the want to be respectful around them. You apologized, it should be let go.
A recent embarrasing story of mine is that I sent a text to my ex boss, thinking it was his new number saying “they are legit interviewing a clean shaven santa to replace you” but actually sent it to his old company number instead!! AH. Luckily my director kinda found it funny..
Post # 13
With everything seen and heard these days I don’t know how anyone can be shocked by an f-bomb. It smacks of the worst kind of judgement. There are plenty of things that people say that are truly shocking, just listen to our fearless leader, the Cheeto in chief.
When my daughter was 1.5 or 2 she was riding in the car with my husband. Someone cut him off and he grumbled about it. My daughter pipes up, “Daddy was that an asshole?”. It was pretty obvious to my husband where she’d heard the term lol.
Post # 14
Awww, bee! I can’t really relate at all since I’m the one who has utterly corrupted my fiance in this regard lol
I don’t think I heard him swear once in the first year we were dating… a few months living with me tho and boooooyhowdy! lol
Post # 15
This is f**king no big deal! LMAO.