(Closed) Drugged at a bar???

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 18
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Buzzing bee

OMG!  That is Sooo terrible.  I feel awful for you.  Not. Your. Fault.   Be well.   (((Hugs)))

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m so sorry that this happened to you. If you think something happened you really should talk to the police.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

ohh you poor thing! Don’t be embarassed – it wasnt your fault.

I had someone slip something in my drink once while I was overseas, I dont remember much of the night but thankfully my friends looked after me. Very scary!

Go see your doctor, explained what happened and possibly try and find someone to talk to about this, but you should never blame yourself for this, you didnt do it!

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I have nothing more to add, but this is not your fault. I had something like this happen a few years ago. Luckily I was with my fiance (now husband). We were at a music festival and left to go to a local club/bar. After a drink I felt strange and we left. I don’t remember much. Go to the police.

Post # 22
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Uh..I would head the hospital and get a blood test.  If someone gave you a roofie they should be able to tell.  If you were drugged I would report it to the police, with proof you were drugged and resolve the matter legally.  who knows how many other girls have or could be drugged.  some might not be lucky as you to come out of it OK

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I really hope you at least contact the police. Make them aware of the problem, who knows if you can save someone else.

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

This is NOT your fault – you have nothing to feel embarrassed about. Unfortunately, this has happened to a lot of women.

I think you should go to your doctor/hospital ASAP and see if they can test your blood for any sort of chemicals that shouldn’t be there. You should also think about reporting it to the police, even if you feel like you don’t have anything to tell them.

A few years ago in our city, there was a bunch of girls who were slipped date-rape drugs over a period of several months. Many went to the cops and reported it (even if they didn’t think they had much to report). Turns out, they were all slipped the drug in the SAME BAR. The police did end up raiding the bar, or doing some sort of sting (I can’t remember which), and they found out it was a sort of organized ring of a few guys who did this to girls. Had those ladies not reported what happened to the cops, likely the guys never would have been caught. The bar was later shut down.

Take a couple days for yourself, and don’t beat yourself up over this. This has happened to a lot of women, you are not alone, or in any way a “bad person”. Hugs.

Post # 25
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I am in agreement with the girls to go straight to the doc.  Date rape drugs were all the rage when I was in college.  Better safe than sorry.

But I do agree with Angela.  I would look back over the last two weeks and see if you were on any meds that might have even been the same as you had been on for months.  I am in my 30s and I know what my tolerance is.  But I went through a situation a few months ago that I was taking a vitamin for my pms and low and behold three beers into the night I was throwing up and blacking out.  Lickily I was out with my fiance and he took care of me but… I did some research and found out that the vitamin can double the reaction to alcohol.  I went off the vitamin immediately and didn’t drink for a few weeks until it was out of my system.  You would be surprised what a benign seeming drug or vitamin can do to your body and they don’t tell you about.

But in the mean time.  Just like gabrielle said- take some time for yourself, don’t be afraid or embarassed to open up to your friends or family (because this wasn’t your fault either way), and make sure your health is in order. 

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Happened to me 10 years ago, can only figure it was the bartender.  Luckily I was there with friends who made sure that I made it home safe.  Couldn’t keep water down for 24 hours.. it was bad.

Sorry this happened to you.  Just be careful in the future – set it up so that you always have a friend with you.  And watch your drink.  Order beer in a bottle, or anything in a bottle, makes it harder to slip something in.

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m so sorry this happened to you.  But I do believe you can get tested to see if there is trace amounts of the drug in your blood system.  I would definitely suggest doing so along with seeing a regular physician.  I hope that everything turns out ok.  

Post # 28
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Wannabee

I am not your typical poster on this forum.  I am a 40 year old divorced male.  I decided to write because last night I was drugged at a bar and I feel your pain.

My story:

Last night I attended a wine tasting event with a female friend.  We were there for 3 hours sipping wine and eating hors d’oeuvres and having an otherwise pleasant evening.

When we left the event I felt fine, not drunk or tipsy at all.  I would estimate that I drank maybe 2 glasses of wine and one beer in 3+ hours.  I am 180 pounds so that amount of alcohol would not even have put me near the legal limit.

Upon leaving the even my friend wanted to go down the street to a bar and meet some of her friends.  We walked the 3 blocks to the bar chatting and neither of us were the least bit affected.  We arrived at the bar at approximately 10:30 pm.  I chatted with people and had 3 drinks.  

I suddenly began to feel very “spacey”, disoriented and dissociated.  I felt that I needed to go outside and get some air.  Over the next 10 to 15 minutes the feeling compounded and I knew that something was not right so I made my way home.  I only live about 3 blocks form the bar.

I made it home and my friend began text messaging me about 11:30 asking where I was.  I texted her and told her that I was at home and that I was not feeling well.  She mentioned that I had her purse and keys in my car so I left my house and walked 3 blocks to my car and then 3 blocks back to the bar.  She met me outside to collect her things and asked me why I was not wearing any shoes.  I looked down and to my astonishment I was not wearing shoes.  I walked about 9 blocks barefoot in pretty chilly weather without shoes and did not even know!  I gave her the purse and walked back home.

I went to bed and slept until about 11:00 am and got up and got my keys preparing to walk the 3 blocks to get my car.  When I walked out of my house I found my car in the driveway and I do not remember anything from the time I got home at about 12:00 until I woke up at 11:00.  I obviously got up and walked to my car and rove it home, but I have ZERO recollection of that.

Here is where the story gets really strange.

Today at about 5:00 pm I was contacted by a police officer and asked to come to the station and answer some questions about the events of last night.  It seems that a number of cars at my ex-wife’s apartment was vandalized.  They suspect that is was me because she and I have been arguing over a property settlement.  

I am completely freaked out by all of this, because, first, I am not the kind of person to damage the property of others and second, I do not have ANY recollection of even going to her house.

Today I have felt really bad physically.  I cannot focus and I cannot form clear thoughts.  My body feels strange and weak and tingly.  I do not have the usual symptoms of drinking too much booze; no pounding head, no nausea,  no rampant thirst.  These symptoms are something that I have never felt before.  I feel drugged!  It is hard to explain.

Going from completely coherent and steady to totally out of control and dissociated in under an hour is very unlikely without the assistance of some kind of drug.

I have researched the rates of absorption and elimination of alcohol.  There is an interesting calculator located here: http://www.brad21.org/bac_charts.html I consumed less than 7 drinks in a 4 hour period.  That would put my BAC level at approximately .11 at the time I lost memory.  According to the Progressive effects of alcohol chart located here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Blood_alcohol_content  Stupor and memory loss enter in at a much higher BAC level.  At a BAC level of 0.21–0.29 (about 2x where mine should have been) the following symptoms present:

Stupor
Loss of understanding
Impaired sensations
Severe motor impairment
Loss of consciousness
Memory

Stupor

Loss of understanding

Impaired sensations

Severe motor impairment

Loss of consciousness

Memory

It is also worth mentioning that I had eaten before the wine tasting and during so the rate of absorption should have been much slower.  If I had to guess I would say that my BAC level at the time I lost recollection would have been about .07 to .09.  I cannot think of anything that would make me act as though I had a BAC level almost 3x greater except for having been drugged.

Ladies (and gentlemen) who read this:  BE CAREFUL when you are out drinking.  DO NOT leave your drinks unattended and DO NOT take a drink from ANYONE!

Post # 29
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Wannabee

last week the same thing happened to me I was out in my neighborhood where I feel safe and comfortable i had a few beers- the rest of the night I have no memory of- I only remember being in a car with someone and feeling off besides that I have no recollection of the night. the next day I knew something was horribly wrong bc I was bleeding from my rectum. I did not want to go to the hospital all these horrible and crazy things kept going through my head.  I couldn’t remember which was the hardest part.  My sister convinced me to go to the hospital where a rape kit was done on me and I was given all kinds of medication just in case the guy who did this to me has an STD or worse HIV.  I will have to be on HIV preventative meds for the next 3 months.  The hospital told me it was impossible to test for these drugs even though told them that I hardly drank and was sure that I was drugged.  I found out a couple of days later that the hospital could have tested me even though its hard to find in your system it definitely can be tested for.  I was furious.  I went back and got tested but now it was going on 3 days and the chances were slim to nothing of finding the drug in my system.  The past week and a half have been so hard for me- its even harder because I can’t remember but I know someone raped me.  I have decided to go to the police and they are conducting and investigation.  They went into the 1st bar I was at and said I was sober and having a good time.  I was there for 2 hours and don’t remember.  The 2nd bar is where I think I may have been drugged.  they are going to look at the tapes.  I hope this bastard gets caught.  supposedly at the second bar I was doing things out of character but can’t remember anything.  since I know the bartender and people in the neighborhood I decided to ask who drove me home bc he is the 1 who did this to me.  I found out. At the end of the day if he is not caught putting something in my drink it will be my word against his.  If you think you have been raped go to the hospital immediately- do not take a shower, MAKE sure they test you for all drugs and don’t take no for an answer.  I struggled with the idea of going to the cops because i live in a neighborhood where every1 knows every1- the businesses, the bars, the drug store, the deli are all owned by people who live there –  I thought every1 will know? but I needed to be strong so I did get the cops involved believe me its not an easy process and who knows if I will get the justice I deserve but these people need to be stopped.  THIS IS RAPE- there is not difference between this person and the one who carries a knife and rope.  In this case the weapon is a drug.  I know I didn’t do anything wrong and try to tell myself this as often as possible because it is so hard but I have to do what I can.  If there is even the slightest chance that I can catch this BASTARd i want to = he will do this again and some1 like this has probably done it before.  The cops said that they rarely get cases like this and its bc women don’t know what happened to them but at the counseling center I was told that this is often heard of.  So please if u suspect that u have been a victim of a sexual assault pleas please do something about it.  If u don’t want to go to the cops then at least go to the hospital.  

Post # 30
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I want to bump this thread because I think it’s a really important topic to be discussing.

Post # 31
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

This happened to me the weekend before last, I’m sure.  I went out to a local bar (FI and I usually only go to restaurants and this one really chill bar…this was more of a college place) to sing karaoke.  I had had two beers with dinner around 6 pm and another at 8 pm while at our chill bar.  By 10 pm I was on my 4th drink in 4 hours. It sounds like a bit much, but I wasn’t drunk at all and had water in between drinks.  I went up to the stage to watch Fiance sing karaoke and a group of guys started talking to me.  I remember maybe 30-45 minutes after that and then nothing at all, but apparently I passed out and couldn’t walk myself to bed.  I woke up around 7 am and had the worst pounding headache or my life.  I was so nauseated and sick all day.  At first, I thought that maybe I had just had a lot more to drink that night and had completely forgot about it, but Fiance said that I hadn’t.  I bought one more drink but he drank it all.

I have no clue how someone could have slipped something in a drink I was holding, but I can’t figure out how else it could have happened.  Fiance thinks it happened as they were walking up to me, and I was watching Fiance.  I just feel very lucky that Fiance was with me. 

The same sort of thing happened to my mother’s friend at another local bar the week prior.  She was also lucky, because she ran into some friends there who realized something was off and took her home.

I feel pretty violated about it, but am glad nothing happened.  What really stunk was that as I was trying to warn others about it, someone just thought that I got really drunk and I was trying to justify it.  I just don’t get that drunk off of 4 beers in 4 hours…especially when I’m drinking water in between.

Be careful bees!

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