Post # 1
So my wedding was beautiful and I’m beyond in love and happy. But I still have a tinge of resentment because one of my bridesmaids got so plastered at the reception she ended up making an absolute fool of herself. She threw up on her dress, tried making out with one of the groomsmen who is married, flashed her boobs and was very provocatively dancing on the dance floor. While I am very laid back, my husbands family is so conservative and was horrified. She was such a mess and I’ll always have that connotation with my reception. She was horrified when she found out all she did and said she blacked out and apologized profusely and I do forgive her but it’s like how do I just let it go? I’m sure one day I’ll laugh it off but not now
Post # 2
You let it go by letting it go.
It happened. It’s over. You can remember your wedding as a day of love and joy or you can fixate on your idiot bridesmaid. Your call.
Post # 3
Well she didn’t ruin your reception. She definitely messed up but I’m sure you still have plenty of lovely memories from the reception. Focus on those and when you think about her actions that night just remember that it really is a tiny portion of the evening.
Post # 4
Let it go. She didn’t ruin your reception. She most likely feels alot worse about her own behaviour than you do, and shes likely to be feeling mortified and embarrassed enough as it is.
Post # 6
You say, “What a fucking dingus,” laugh, and then laugh at how horrified the conservatives were. Lol but yeah, it happened. No going back to get rid of it. I don’t know that I would’ve “forgiven” so quickly, but whatever. It’s really her cross to bear.
Post # 7
I’m that bridesmaid..I can’t for the life of me drink responsibly. I have zero tolerance (rarely ever drink) and always go into drinking with the though of “I’ll only have two” but after just one I end up having more and more and have zero control. OK really I could probably have three and end up dancing on the tables with my shoes on my hands. Believe me, she’s embarassed. She’s mortified and probably hopes she never ever bumps into anyone from your wedding again.
Really though she didn’t ruin your reception. There was a drunk bridesmaid..that happens at many receptions. It’s not like the venue caught on fire or there was a giant fight and no one ended up in the hospital. One girl made a fool of herself. Stop focusing on that and think back to everything else.
Post # 8
breyalynn : I think you will laugh about it one day. She must cringe every five minutes…
My uncle was a perv with several women on the dance floor. I was furious but got over it
Your first line about beautiful wedding and being in love says it all, you can get over it for sure
Post # 9
Imagine someone got drunk at a wedding, puked and did a little dirty dancing. Unheard of!
Seriously, it didn’t ruin your reception, you’re letting it ruin it by thinking that way, probably nobody cares what she did. Forget about it, you have way more happy memories to be concentrating on.
Post # 10
But she flashed her boobs at your wedding!!! I’m dying!! That’s the craziest story I’ve ever heard and I would probably have a hard time forgiving too, but ya gotta let it go for your own good so that you can remember your wonderful wedding without cringing about her.
Post # 11
Let’s get one thing straight: she didn’t RUIN your reception. Please don’t exaggerate. Was it annoying/embarrassing? Sure. Did everything come to a screeching halt and people left? No.
She apologized. She probably feels like an idiot. Move on. I don’t get why you’re so hung up on something so ridiculous
Post # 12
Lousy of her to be that way, I hope she learned a lesson. If your DH’s family is blaming you for this in any way, they are the ones who are wrong, not her.
This bridesmaid has provided the conservatives with a good story to dine out on for years, to illustrate their fine qualities to their cohorts!
Post # 13
My family would have without a doubt kicked her out, lol.
I guess i am the minority here, but I would be SUPER upset if I was you. You had one job as a bridesmaid…..and it was NOT that.
A couple of my FI’s friends got so trashed at a wedding that they were all groomsmen in that I told my Fiance that we are not even considering them to be a part of our wedding party….I’m talking trashed for days and drinking at 10:00am. One of them even walked through the screen door of our Airbnb and broke it.
Does she have a track record of losing control?
Post # 14
THe back half of receptions are very often kind of a mess. This isn’t some freak occurence that happened to your wedding — it’s a thing, it happens, there’s often that one person everyone laughs at a little bit like “God, remember when Uncle Tony took the mic from the DJ and told those embarrassing jokes?” or whatever. Every time you start to think about it, firmly tell yourself, “No. I am not obsessing about this. Instead, I choose to remember x, y and z.” (Make a short list of your favorite moments from your ceremony and reception, and focus determinedly on those memories.)
Post # 15
No use crying over spilled puke. Most every wedding there’s someone who makes an ass of themselves and this time it’s your Bridesmaid or Best Man who takes the cake. I’m sure she’s mortified.
I highly doubt she RUINED everything. She didn’t burn the building down she was just a drunken fool. All the wonderful things aren’t negated by a walking punch line. She just made for juicy gossip and laughs at brunch the next day, and believe me- there’s always someone!