Drunk friend ruined my reception :(

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 46
1168 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

missjabbee :  Like I said, I was not calling you an alcoholic. I also wasn’t saying that YOU have a drinking problem or calling you a child. Way to read wild things into my words. 

I was never an alcoholic, but I have no tolerance either, and I concluded I had a problem because I would also “go into drinking with the though of “I’ll only have two” but after just one I end up having more and more and have zero control.” 

The ending up with zero control portion of it was what I wasn’t comfortable with. I didn’t want to be that person, and that should be okay. Like I said, I just didn’t want to be that person, and made changes in my life. I changed things and put some safeguards into place, and I’m no longer that person.

You are totally free to interpret your own situation and actions the way you want. I don’t live your life, and I don’t know much about you other than that one post. It would be inappropriate for me to project my experiences onto you, which is why I explicity said that that wasn’t what I was doing–I just felt some solidarity with how you expressed yourself in your post. That does not mean that our situations are identical.

Nothing to get offended about.


Post # 48
67 posts
Worker bee

Jijitattoo :  I agree- there’s always something that “went wrong” you could focus on and be sad about. In the end, it’s just not worth investing so much emotion into that. Finding a few excellent memories from the night to redirect your thoughts with sounds like a great idea! 

Post # 49
3065 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

breyalynn :  echoing the other bee’s sentiments that she didn’t ruin your wedding reception. Let it go!

At my wedding I had a cousin get black out and have to be carried out of the venue, and a good friends husband puked on the shuttle bus!

Honestly I was not offended, I was happy that obviously my guest had a great time at my party!!

You need some perspective. 

Post # 50
493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

These types of things happen at many weddings. The thing about it is in the future most people won’t even remember what crazy thing happened at what wedding.  I know it’ll be easier to let it go in the future but for now what will help you is thinking about how it could have been worse! I’ve heard stories of familes getting in fist fights or cursing each other out at weddings or parents being terribly mean to the bride or groom resulting in one of them crying the rest of the night. 

My friend was Maid/Matron of Honor for a wedding where the grooms father didn’t show up until the reception was ending and drunkenly cursed out the groom in front of a bunch of guests that were still there. The groom spent his whole wedding night crying with his new wife. 

Post # 51
995 posts
Busy bee

It is my nature to get anxiety and the feeling of embarrassment for just getting drunk. Even if I acted like the most lady like person in the room I still feel paranoia I acted a fool. 

I am sure she is deeply humiliated right now. She probably is prettu upset for her choices. I would just laugh it off (or try to).

Post # 52
214 posts
Helper bee

If I was a bridesmaid there’s no way I would behave that way. I would understand that its my resposibility to represent the bride, that this isn’t a girls night out, that there are important family ties to be made.

I also don’t drink anymore, though. I find drinking a very strange activity, and drunk people suck. I don’t understand why she couldn’t keep it together for one night. She may not officially have a drinking problem, but when she drinks it’s clearly a problem.

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