Post # 1
I’m thinking ahead to whenever our post pandemic wedding will be. For personal reasons (not religious or financial), we will be having a dry wedding. This is not something that has ever been done among the rest of our family and friends.
We were thinking a morning ceremony with the celebration, whatever that will look, like directly afterward.
I’m thinking the more offbeat the celebration the better. Maybe if it isn’t like a regular reception or meal, it will be more enjoyable for everyone. I understand, that a lack of alcohol means that a dancefloor wouldn’t make much sense and that whatever we do will be a shorter celebration so people don’t feel bored, etc.
Help me think outside the box! Also, just to reiterate, we are certain that we want a dry wedding, just looking for ideas that will be fun after the ceremony, even if it looks nothing like the average reception- which would be preferable IMO.
Post # 2
Just do a morning ceremony and brunch. Done.
I wouldn’t expect people to hang around to long as the one dry wedding I went to most people were gone before they cut the cake.
Post # 4
There are personal reasons for this decision. I stated that I realize whatever we do to celebrate will be shorter. We are trying to think outside the box to make it enjoyable. I’m not approaching this in a way that I just want to plan something to get it over with for everyone. I want them to genuinely have a good time, even if this means replacing a celebration with some kind of activity.
Post # 5
how many people?
if it’s a small wedding there are SOOOOO MANY things I can think of. Also what season?
Post # 6
Do you believe your guests won’t see a delicious brunch and the opportunity to chat with other guests as a good time?
Post # 7
It will be a small summertime wedding.
Some in attendance may not unfortunately, so I’m trying to think very outside the box and come up with an idea for something fun and unique where alcohol wouldn’t make sense or be expected so they don’t feel like it’s lame or be let down.
Post # 8
I’ve always thought going go karting or doing laser tag in a wedding dress would REALLY fun
Post # 9
I would definitely do a brunch reception where alcohol won’t be expected (though some may miss mimosas, but they’ll get over it). You could always invite guests to some sort of “after party” event later that evening (I’m assuming next summer…hopefully we are back to normal) for more fun. I think a relaxing brunch reception of mingling is perfectly fine. I don’t expect to be entertained at a wedding. Is there anything in your area that a small group of people could go do later? Karaoke…a sporting event…bowling…murder mystery theater if you’re into that?
Post # 10
My husband’s cousin had a dry wedding last year that I attended. It was a dinner reception, and a non drinker myself it really didn’t feel any different from any other wedding to me, although it ended a bit earlier. There’s no reason you can’t have a dancing just because there’s no alcohol, if that’s something you want!
Post # 11
Personally, I don’t feel not having alcohol needs to change your wedding into a different sort of event. It sounds like you feel the need to overcompensate for having a dry wedding. A brunch wedding is fine, and there are many people who don’t need liquid courage to dance. Just do your brunch wedding with some mocktails. You can have mimosas with orange juice and a sparkling cider. The only difference that is absolute between a dry wedding and a wedding with alcohol is that there’s no alcohol. It doesn’t need to change your wedding into activity based, and many people don’t want to have to play coordinated games or engage in those types of activities at a wedding. They’re attending to celebrate you while they eat and socialize.
Post # 12
“I understand, that a lack of alcohol means that a dancefloor wouldn’t make much sense”
People really don’t have to be buzzed or drunk to enjoy music, dancing, and socializing at a wedding. I’ve been to a few dry weddings and many brunch or lunches where they served maybe one drink for the toast early on and still hosted a full blown dance party. It’s actually a pretty sad statement on a guest list if people are incapable of enjoying an occasion and in need of elaborate distraction and entertainment if they are not allowed to be drinking all day or night.
And even if you don’t want dancing, is a meal, music, and socializing not a celebration?
Post # 13
Do you care what your celebration looks like? As in do you want your guests dressed up or casual?
If you want dressed up then I would go garden tea party. You could have games like croquet and the big jenga.
If you don’t mind casual then maybe find a lake or beach that you can get married at and have bbq, swimming and beach games.
Engagement parties here are often held at lawn bowls clubs and everyone barefoot bowls and it is always a fun evening.
But I agree with pp that if the only way your guestlist can have fun is to be drinking then that says a lot about them and I would not change my wedding to entertain them.
Post # 14
A friend of mine didn’t have a dry wedding, but there were a lot of children so drinking wasn’t the main game.
They had a big lawn area with horseshoes, cornhole, frisbees, etc for everyone to enjoy and it was amazing. More people chose to bond over there than dance, bit some dancing still happened.
For my first marraige I did a brunch wedding and regret the timing (along with my choice of groom, lol).
The day was a rush beforehand and then I had most of the day leftover and it didn’t feel special. Just a heads up, so you can fill in your afternoon ahead of time.
Post # 15
I don’t think you NEED to change anything if you don’t want to. As a person who does drink I’m more than happy to go to a wedding that doesn’t have alcohol (I’ve been to several) and dance my face off. I don’t NEED alcohol to have a fun time or to be silly- I simply enjoy a cocktail or two when they do happen to be available.
But if you DO want to change things just because I think laser tag or go carting or a mystery dinner or minor league baseball or bowling or something would be so much fun!