(Closed) Dry Wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 19
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662 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I’ve been to a few dry weddings that were dry for religious/cultural reasons, and because the vast majority of guests were aware and familiar with this custom they were great events. However, a nighttime wedding without the booze….won’t go over really well, unfortunately. If you’re having a backyard BBQ, why not make it a lunchtime event? There would be much less expectation for alcoholic libations in that case! Otherwise, yeah people are going to talk, probably stay in their seats, and leave early. Not much fun for you or the groom. You just have to be realistic about your desired outcomes and expectations for how the reception will go, whatever your party/budgetary constraints are.

Post # 20
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552 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

honestly, i’ve never been to a dry wedding. i guess i’d be fine with it? i don’t really drink much…but i do like the option, i guess. we have a small budget ($7,000) and are having a brunch wedding (11am) and we are doing serve yourself mimosas and bloody marys. maybe provide some cheap wine/beer without hiring a bar tender? do a cute drink station? but don’t stretch your budget too far for this. 

 

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

If people are incapable of having a good time without alcohol they need to re-evaluate their lives.  I’m not a big drinker, and even if I do drink it is usually only one.  Mostly because I am cheap and don’t want to spend money on alcohol, but also because I am a lightweight.  I have no problem having fun at a wedding, staying until the very end, and tearing it up on the dance floor without a drop of alcohol.

Post # 22
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2965 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Honestly, my wedding was the only non-dry wedding I’ve ever been to but that’s because the venues here make such a big deal about the alcohol (extra for security and required licensed bartender and more consequences after they drink). We only did mixed drinks (pina colada, daquiries and wine for toasting). What time of day are you having your wedding? I would suggest doing it during a time people wouldn’t expect to have alcohol. They’re going to leave early anyways (and that’s not meant to sound rude, my guests left early as well). If I could do it over again, I would have had my wedding earlier and no alcohol. It was a waste of money for us.

 

 

 

Post # 24
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You’re having a backyard wedding.  The cost of a few cases of been and a few bottles of wine is minimal.  the real cost of alcohol is when you have it at a venue, not when you provide it yourself. I really don’t see your excause of money as being justified.  I’d def talk behind your back and feel quite jipped about the 100 dollar gift I gave you.  Sorry.

Post # 25
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

There is nothing wrong with throwing a dry wedding.  As a guest I would want to know ahead of time so I could make a decision whether to carry a flask that night but I would never complain to the bride or groom because that is rude.  Just be prepared for guests to leave early from the reception because booze is what gets people dancing and partying unfortunately.  I think a dry wedding works best when it’s a brunch or lunch wedding because guests aren’t expecting to drink as much as they would at a dinner reception.

 

Our budget is $5K and we made sure to pick venues that would accommodate our alcohol budget because half of our guests are social drinkers and it wouldn’t be a party without booze.

 

Post # 26
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1087 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’ve been to one dry wedding, and we knew ahead of time so it was fine! Honestly, with anything else (cash bar, limited bar, no bar) just do the courtesy of letting them know ahead and it’s fine. I’ve been burnt before expecting open bar and had it be cash bar instead which is fine, but I wasn’t prepared with cash so it was disappointing. Those who don’t want to come celebrate with you will be missed. 

Post # 29
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662 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Yikes. In that case, why would you invite that person? In any case, you clearly have your answer. Your Fiance doesn’t want booze; this is not a popular decision. Enjoy your day and let it go.

 

Post # 30
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6516 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

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