- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2015
I’m young, but not underage. I hate drinking. I HATE the taste of alcohol and I don’t like being surrounded by drunk people. When my best friend drags me to a party, I sit on the couch and do nothing. The fiance doesn’t drink either. Never even tasted it and never wants to. Both sides are christian families… however, his is baptist, mine is a mixture of catholics and sorta kinda atheists… I have no idea what they call themselves.
His family never drinks. His sister had a dry wedding.
My family does drink. One side drinks a little, the other side gets straight up drunk.. with no inbetween.
I don’t want alcohol at my wedding. BUT, i dont want ANY body to be upset that I didn’t have any.
The problem is, (not only the fact that two of his close family members are ex alcoholics) but MY family.
My dad is the biggest alcoholic. If there is alcohol near him, he will drink it all.
and he is a mean ass drunk and he just gets ridiculous.
You can make him promise and beg him to not drink, but he thinks that if you don’t see him drink it, you won’t notice. What he doesn’t notice is that he can’t handle any alcohol and gets wasted and makes an idiot out of everyone around him. AND, i don’t want my mom to have to babysit him like she has to do everywhere they go.
At my cousins wedding, he wasn’t supposed to have any. HOWEVER, every freaking person snuck him a drink after we told them not to. When everyone was starting to go home, because it was almost midnight, he started shouting “WHERE’S THE AFTER PARTY!?” and asked everyone near him if he could go to their place and drink some more.
To be honest, if i could, I wouldn’t invite him. But how can i not invite my dad? I love my dad. But I don’t want him making MY night about him. I don’t want to be embarassed or cry on my wedding night because my dad can’t handle himself. I don’t want him embarassing me. Its not only him, it’s his entire side of the family. They all get wasted and fight. They don’t leave when it’s time to go home. They go crazy.
I dont want ANY of that.
I’d like that side of the family to come, and they would definitely complain about not having alcohol.
Oh, and all my bridesmaids will most likely get super tipsy and say stupid shit about me and embarass me. (We’ve grown up together and they know all my stupid highschool stories.) AND sometimes one of them loves to bring up ex boyfriend stories. I feel like I don’t have to worry about them though. I would just have to get things straight with them beforehand.
I would like to maybe just have some champagne (because I don’t exactly want to toast with grape juice.. although if i have to.. ill be fine) but people might think i’m cheap if I only give them a little bit of champage but not an open bar.
How is there a way around this.
Talking to the people and asking them to not drink is out of the question.
How do I tell people that it will be a dry wedding? is that weird to put on the invitations.
I dont want to give them an afterparty with my money. I don’t want to condone them getting drunk because they didn’t have enough fun at the wedding.
How do I distract them from thinking they need alcohol to have fun?
Is there a way to serve little alcohol without looking cheap?
and please no trash talking my friends and family. I already know that theyre all jerks. haha