(Closed) Dry Wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I personally wouldnt have a dry wedding or a cash bar.

HOWEVER,

it’s your wedding. Do whatever you like.

If you choose to do a dry wedding or cash bar, I would let people know ahead of time.

Nothing worse than going to a wedding then finding out there wont be a glass of wine on offer or not having any cash on hand to purchase beverages.

Keep your guests in the loop 

🙂

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

It’s very possible to have a wedding, with alcohol, without everyone getting shit faced and destructive. Perhaps you need to reconsider your guest list. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Dry weddings were the worst weddings I’d ever been to. It doesn’t have to be an open bar, but at least some wine and a champagne toast!

the only exception I would make for a dry wedding is if it is a Mormon wedding or someone recovering from alcoholism. But other than that, guests like me like a glass of something!!! 🙂

some people would recommend doing drink tickets to restrict the number of drinks they can consume, but I would never do that either. We are having an open bar all night. I can’t control what and how much people drink. We will just ubers on stand by and hangover kits as wedding favors.

If you know you have some troublesome family members, maybe talk to them in private about how you’d like them to restrict their alcohol use. Or hire security guards to remove people who get too drunk. Either way, it won’t be a popular option for your guests, but you’ll have the order you need!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

A way to have a dry wedding that may be less weird/awkward is to have a morning ceremony + brunch or lunch. That is what we did and we were happy with our decision. We were actually trying to avoid the whole group dancing. Our toasts were with orange juice. Our families are not big drinkers anyway though.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Have bar staff who’ll stop service when people are too drunk.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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moorelove18 :  I can empathize. My first wedding was an alcohol free afternoon ceremony and reception because both my parents were alcoholics and many of their friends could not stop drinking once they got started.

It’s easy for someone to say “reconsider your guest list” but when those people are immediate family it’s not very helpful.

It is fine to have an alcohol free wedding. If it is an evening affair with dinner and dancing, you can expect that some people will leave earlier. There are people who simply can’t have a good time without alcohol.

You could consider alternatives such as a brunch reception, afternoon tea etc. Both allow the two of you to get away and start your honeymoon earlier too.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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moorelove18 :  We had champagne and mimosas, and a champagne toast, no other alcohol at a brunch reception.  It worked out well.  🙂

Post # 9
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Busy bee

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with a dry wedding! It’s not against etiquette at all, as far as I’m aware. Apparently people tend to leave dry weddings early, but if they can’t enjoy your reception without a drink, that’s not really the kind of person you want around anyways. Have a dry wedding, so that way you can give yourself permission to stop stressing about other people’s behavior. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

You absolutely can have a dry wedding. However, in my experience, at a dry wedding, most people (not all, but most) will leave soon after dinner and/or will not dance. If you’re absolutely ok with an earlier end to the evening, I would proceed with skipping the booze. I like the others’ idea for a brunch reception where you serve mimosas and have a champagne toast! 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

Most weddings I’ve been to are alcohol free and they were so much fun!  We were there to share the couples special day and that was the focus.  It’s kinda sad that not having alcohol seems like “bad” thing to many people.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

the bartender shouldn’t be letting people drink that much.  You have alcohol to host your guests properly, it is no different than if you invited them over for dinner or a BBQ, you would offer them wine or a beer wouldn’t you?

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’d only do a dry wedding if it was a morning wedding w/ brunch reception. There’s no rule that says a wedding HAS to have alcohol but evening weddings with no alcohol tend to end pretty early and the party never really gets started. If you’re ok with that by all means go for it. If you expect a party with dancing into the evening I’d just prepare yourself that it’s not likely to happen. There will always be someone who says they had an evening wedding w/ no alcohol and lots of dancing…but that is the extream exception not the rule. As a wedding photographer I can tell you that every dry wedding I’ve had has usually been a bit of a let down when it comes to the party.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I’m having a dry brunch reception. I literally have no idea why people act like you have to have alcohol to have fun. Like other PPs suggest, a morning or afternoon reception would probably fit best. Maybe find some sort of entertainment for your guests. We are having lawn games at ours. It is your wedding & you have zero obligation to give people booze. 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Dry wedding are boring I woud tell the bartenders to cut people off if they notice guestsare getting  out of hand

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