(Closed) D/s bees, any ideas on how to write meaningful-but-appropriate vows?

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
1198 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

tagging to follow! Fiance is great at getting things done and he’s got his written! my wedding is NEXT SATURDAY so i am freaking out like crazy!! i just dont know how to express how i feel! 

Post # 3
3638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Sorry, but before I can possibly help, I have to know what d/s means? Although I guess if I don’t know what it means, it probably doesn’t relate to me.

Post # 4
1211 posts
Bumble bee

Everdeen:  Trust me if you don’t know what D/s means then it does NOT relate to you, lol.

You know OP I’ve had subs but never in a romantic relationship kind of way, so writing vows for this type of situation has never really crossed my mind. But you’re  right, the vows for something like this would be incredibly important, especially maybe finding a delicate way to put them depending on the type of guests you will be inviting. Which one are you? I just realized that I automatically assumed that he was the “s” but I’m gender biased that way.

For the “D” maybe a promise to love, guide, keep the other safe and help them to be the best person they could be.

And for the “s” to promise to love, worship and “obey” (tee hee hee) the other. That’s the only time where I can actually see keeping the to obey vow without me wanting to smack someone.

I know it’s all kind of subtle and vague but it’s kind of tamed down for the masses.

Post # 5
1198 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

omg!! okay i didn’t know that! not relevant to me then haha. 

Post # 7
353 posts
Helper bee

prinprin:  I’m only vaguely familiar with all the details of D/s, so maybe I can offer an outside perspective. Without knowing your guests, I would say that some might be a little thrown by words like obey, worship, or serve… however, the Bible does say a woman should serve (or is it obey?) so if you word it right people might just assume you’re speaking biblically. 

You could definitely find synonyms that have a less harsh implication. Just off the top of my head… love, honor, follow, embrace, adore, admire, celebrate, revere. 

I think you can also “sneak” a word or two into it if you’re listing verbs… something like “I promimse to love, cherish, and serve you and our marriage” 

To me, it also sounds a little less provocative if you make those promises to your relationship rather than him. I don’t know if that still achieves what you want, but I feel like you’d be fine saying “I promise to obey our love and worship our lives together…” That kind of leaves it up to interpretation, to you and your husband it means you obey him, but to guests it means you will be true to your marriage. 

Not sure if that’s any help but that’s my two cents. Good luck with it! 🙂 

Post # 9
3 posts

Thank you, OP for the post. We are also wantung to incorporate vows and as well as a tasteful collar into our wrdding ceremony. I wish you two the best! 

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