Post # 1
With all these threads about baby names I was curious about what everyone thinks of names that work for both boys and girls? Do you love them or hate them? We’re having a girl, and while we’re keeping the name a secret til she’s born, we did tell my family and my dad hates it because he thinks it’s a boys name! That’s not going to sway us at all, because what’s important is that WE love it. Just wondering if generally speaking people thought those names were annoying or potentially great 🙂
Post # 3
Personally I prefer gender-specific names. I find it easier on the child and on people in general because you know “what to expect” so to say, when you call or write to Jane Doe as opposed to Sasha Doe. Professionally I have fretted over whether to address letters to Ms or Mr with gender-ambiguous names, I don’t want to offend by opting for the wrong one.
Post # 4
For me it depends on the name. I know several male Ashleys, and for me that is definitely a girl’s name. Taylor, Jordan, and Sidney/Sydney on the other hand are all gender neutral names in my mind.
As a teacher unisex names were always a little tricky at the beginning of the school year. (I would often write boy or girl on my rosters to help me remember) The only name that really threw me off as a teacher was a boy named Kelly. As an 8th grader he was very petite and had longish blonde hair. I kept thinking he was a girl!
Post # 5
I LOVE dual-gender names for girls. LOVE THEM! I have a few girlfriends who have girl/guy names (Billie, Ryan, Charlie) and I’ve always thought they suit them so well!
A gender neutral name is definately a strong possibility when I have a daughter.
Post # 6
I don’t like gender neutral names. I don’t have a particular reason… it does remind me of those old Pat skecthes on SNL.
ETA: One of my friends little sisters is named Kyle and she is now engaged to a Kyle. I can’t decide if its cute or weird
Post # 7
@chastenet: Good points Chastenet, thanks for chiming in! @All, what if she has a really girly middle name that clarifies that issue? Does that make a difference for you?
P.S. I don’t think my girls name is as bad as “Ashley” for a boy. That one is just too far out for me too!
Post # 8
I think there are some that are more gender specific, but what your perception of that gender should be is a lot related to your personal exsperiance. I know male Parkers, Datokas but I do know that people name girls that too. Technically Ariel is a Hebrew MALE name, but any boy named that in the States would get laughed at because of the Little Mermiad. So I do think it can cause some confusion for someone who hasn’t met them in person yet. Personally the names I hope to use are older, more traditional and obviously gender specific.
Post # 9
I’m not a huge fan. I prefer boy names for girls over girl names for boys, though. A female Charlie has a better chance in elementary school than a male Ashley.
Post # 10
I am not sure about this . I also have known a boy name Lindsey. So I’m not sure what’s off limit anymore.
Post # 11
@chasesgirl: I actually knew a guy named Ariel in college (and yes, he was Jewish). It didn’t seem odd to me at the time, but I can definitely see how it might be an issue when he was younger.
I tend to like gender-specific names that have gender-neutral nicknames. (i.e., Samantha — Sam; Charlotte — Charlie).
Post # 12
I know a male Dana , robin, Tory , michelle and Kelly.
They all hate their names b/c they have been confused as female by people who don’t know them. Every year without fail Tory’sname wound up on the girls gym roster. of tether other 3 often get mail that says MS. On it.
On the other hand I thonk nontrad names for girls is more ok, at least they don’tseeunto get so much flack
Post # 14
@chasesgirl: I have alot of Jewish friend who have named their daughters Arielle, but I also know alot of men Ariel… I think it’s a beautiful name!
Post # 15
Personally I love unisex names both of my kids have unisex names. For example my daughter’s name is Desmin which is usually a boys name.
Post # 15
Ouuu, we’re 50/50! Really interesting! Keep the responses coming please! I didn’t know this many people disliked gender ambiguous names!