Post # 1
So my sisters decided to start a bunch of drama when I was planning my wedding. They wrote off my entire family, and they both told me they couldn’t be in my wedding because they had no positive thoughts for me or my family. I have never been anything but supportive and loving towards them, even though they both have anger issues and haven’t treated me well over the years.
They had previously been my MOHs. I care a lot about family, and I wanted them to stand up there with me. I was Maid/Matron of Honor for each of them and did so much for them.
They have continued to harass many members of my family via text messaging and voicemails, but they refuse to talk rationally about why they’re even upset. None of us even understand fully why they are angry, and they refuse to tell us.
Now my sisters have established contact with my distant cousin, who none of us even really know because we grew up across the country from each other.
My cousin’s wedding is today, and they have been blowing up her Facebook wall, telling her how beautiful she’s going to be, what a great person she is, how happy they are for her, how much they love weddings, etc.
I just feel like shit. I don’t understand how two people can be so selfish and so hateful. I’m pretty sure they’re just doing it to get at me and make me feel bad. My parents are depressed because they feel like our family has fallen apart.
I don’t really need advice because there’s nothing I can do… I just feel like crap and hubby is at work tonight, so I figured I would come to the Bee. :/ I just feel like no one understands having family like this…
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2011 - Barn at Valhalla
Wow, that is a really strange and extremely hurtful situation. I don’t really have any advice, but to focus on the people who do love and support you…and maybe hide those sisters on FB! Hugs to you and hoping you feel better soon!
Post # 4
One thing we do forget is that although we are born in the same family, and by default love each other, doesn’t mean we have to like our siblings behavior.
It’s ok to say and feel that what they are doing is inappropriate. Don’t take on their problem as your own.
Yes, it is hurtful to the family, but they are the ones with the problem, not the rest of you.
If they were adult enough to discuss their concerns, you could responsd to them. They are not.
Post # 5
Yeah .. that sucks … but i’ve found out that sometimes you just have to write siblings off … it’s horrible but they are toxic. I’d unfriend them on FB so i didn’t have to deal with the crap. It’s such a shame when things like this happen, but seriously you’ll make yourself miserable. I haven’t talked to my oldest brother three times since 8th grade, can I say BLISS? yes .. he’s toxic and mean and scary. It sucks but that’s the way it is.
Post # 6
@magic: Thanks. That’s what I’ve been doing, but it just hit me hard tonight.
@julies1949: Exactly. I would love to discuss with them whatever they think we have all done to them, but how are you supposed to be productive and solve a problem if you’re not willing to talk about it?
@HisIrishPrincess: I just blocked them because it’s making me feel bad and I shouldn’t have to deal with it. Thanks for the advice.