Post # 1
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Wannabee
I have been searching high and low and can’t quite seem to find the right search term for this.
A lot of wedding vows stress that marriage is a joint bringing together of two people into a singular union, but that it’s a union of two individuals, meant to be kept individual, but partnered. I really like this concept and am trying to make the vows reflect that in a rather creative way. That is to say, I’ve like vows which are spoken, one line after the other, bounced back and forth between the two of us. Separately spoken, they would make sense, but also when spoken together they do as well. Something like
Bride:
Line 1a
Line 2a
Line 3a
Groom:
Line 1b
Line 2b
Line 3b
Then during the ceremony:
Bride, Line 1A
Groom, Line 1A
Bride, Line 2A
Groom, Line 2A
Bride, Line 3A
Groom, Line 3A
Have you any examples of this or even heard of it? I think it’d be fantastic.
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
I don’t have anything useful, but I’d like to keep up with this post ^_^
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
I’m not sure i’ve seen any vows like that I can point you toward. If you are unsuccessful in that search, though, there are TONS of readings with those sentiments in mind. If you are interested, I can send you some.
Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
wow, I have never heard of this idea before but I like it a LOT! I am sure it would be easy enough to write your own like that together.
Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
I LOVE this idea! Where were you in my life one year ago when I was still planning? Haha just kidding! 😀 This is really fantastic, though.
Post # 7
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Blushing bee
Here’s a couple who did duet vows:
http://awfulbrothers.blogspot.co.nz/2009/10/wedding-weekend-most-important-part.html
And my celebrant’s niece did something along those lines too; I remembered her showing us the laminated vows. Very beautiful!
Post # 8
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Helper bee
I saw something like this (or at least I think it’s what you’re talking about) in a magazine and we fell in love with the idea! We wrote them together, and we also threw in a couple of lighthearted inside jokes that were meaningful to us. Everyone complimented us on our vows afterward.
Here they are:
Both: I promise…
Him: To be honest
Me: To be trusting
Him: To take things seriously
Me: To see the lighter side of things
Him: To support you in whatever you choose to do
Me: To support you in whatever you choose to do
Him: To not eat the last bite of your sandwich
Me: To unwrap your gum when you are driving or wearing mittens
Him: To cherish you
Me: To love you
Him: To work on things
Me: To make things work
Him: To be the big spoon
Me: To be the little spoon
Both: I take you…
Me: To be my husband
Him: To be my wife
Me: In sickness and in health
Him: For better or for worse
Me: Until death do us part
Him: And if either one of us breaks these promises
Me: I promise to forgive, and move on with our lives
Both: Together
Post # 10
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Sugar bee
Love this idea!! Bookmarking for future reference 😀
Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
@Holocene: Those are great! Did you read/memorize them or have the celebrant prompt you?
Post # 12
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Helper bee
We did this for our ceremony, but with our own spin. Our officiant called them ping pong vows.
So I would say something like “I promise to love you and only you–and to only drool a little when Matt Bomer is on TV”
And he would say “I promise to love you and only you–no matter how many blondes walk by”
So basically we’d be talking about the same thing but in a different way.
Post # 13
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Helper bee
@AlwaysSunny: We memorized them but had index cards just in case! We wanted as little commentary as possible from the officiant, so all he said was “now they will exchange vows” or something along those lines, and we took it from there. We did send the vows to him in advance so he could make sure that we had everything covered.
Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
@chuyskywalker: YES! Some friens of ours did this, but they made it up themselves. While watching, we had no idea they were doing this and it came off so incredibly moving.
She spoke some, then he did, then they did every other line finishing their sentences and ending on the same phrase I DO.
Sunflower Skies that is awesome.
Post # 15
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Bumble bee
I love this idea so much that I’m stealing it! The Bee is the best and everyone is so creative here!
