Post # 32
I had one sister and I was 5 years older than her. After my parents divorced I helped raise her (babysat all the time etc). There is no difference in that than helping out with the others. Do I think I’d have 19 kids or even another child, nah… not for me. But they are not living off of anyone else or asking anyone else for help. They say all the time that their lifestyle is not for them. Even Jim Bob’s father disagreed with the lifestyle.
Post # 33
thats fine if they dont believe in using birth control, but what about NFP? Or simply refraining from such activities… Honestly, I really think Michelle is going to end up having some health issues if she keeps going. What will happen to the family without her? I can’t imagine how hard it would be to have 19 kids, let alone 19 and just one parent. I’ve heard that Josh and Anna said they would be happy with just two or three children though, so that’s good. It’s not that I’m against big familes, but this is just ginormous and still growing.
Post # 34
@crebre: My brothers and I are all 5 years apart as well, with me being the baby. So in some ways we are only children and sometimes my oldest brother (10 yrs older) watched us and helped out, I don’t see a problem in that. I also agree with 19 kids is NOT for me and probably not for most. And they aren’t asking for others to help or casting kids off on other…my neighbors are the same way…a self sustained household of happy children…I guess like most things from the outside looking in we can’t understand it…you don’t really know unless it is you or your life. Maybe it just seems so strange to some of us since having 19 children is not very common. Haha Still can’t imagine having that many kids!
Post # 35
Oh also one more thing…My neighbor had all at home births and after having so many children she would just stand and they would basically “pop out”. I don’t think that is healthy for the mother and agree with JoesWifey…What would happen is something happened to her? Besides their faith, she is the glue that holds them together and the vital glue for the young ones.
Post # 36
@SD:FAINT pop out!!! Yeah I don’t agree with the practice at all and I am sure that the older kids would step in and take over the role of mom to the little ones. i honestly can’t believe that she’s that fertile!! jeez-ums!!
Post # 37
Oh wow, this family just continues to baffle me! My mother and I talk about them at least once a week – we’re oddly fascinated yet repulsed!
Post # 38
Just because their lifestyle isn’t for everyone I don’t think people should be attacking the Duggars for the way they are living their lives. Yes, I do think having 19 children is a little extreme but they have the means to care for them without outside help and it seems like a very loving and caring home. The children all seem happy and without knowing them personally we should not be judging them for the choices that they have made. As for Josh and Anna, I believe they are both 21 and old enough to start there own family, they have a business and their own home. I know many people who have started a family with much less than that. At least they are able to provide a nice, loving home for their brand new child. Lets not forget why this thread was started, to congratulate Josh and Anna on their new arrival, not to attack the way people choose to live their lives.
Post # 41
@sweetkate. I totally agree with every word you said!
Post # 42
I don’t take a position on the Duggars despite the fact that their choices are very different than my own… but, from a medical perspective, I will say that at a certain point you are pushing your luck.
Worse than having 19 kids would be to have 19 kids and no mom. A couple of years ago, I took care of a family that had a similar philosophy. The mom was having twins and nearly died in the process. She was in the hospital for months and had to have her entire colon removed. Those babies and her multitude other kids had to go momless for those months… and without a colon, she’ll never really be the same.
I hope that the Duggars are able to continue to dodge bad outcomes.
Post # 43
I certainly wouldn’t choose the life that the Duggars have, but I will say I think it’s an amazing feat that they have all of those children and don’t rely on the government to feed them. I would hope though that if it became unhealthy for the mom to be pregnant, that they would prevent further pregnancies. To each his own – and congrats to Josh and Anna. I have no doubt they will be good parents.
Post # 44
I watch this show from time to time, I just love how respectful and curteous the children are (especially the little boys). Definitely a change from watching clips from SuperNanny to this show- the kids look like angels!
Post # 45
I cannot for the life of me understand why the media regards having tons of children as some type of personal accomplishment. we have a global overpopulation problem, people!
Post # 46
I wonder if Josh and Anna will try to have more kids than mom, lol