Dumb worry – Concerned my reception is going to be lame in comparison!

posted 2 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

Comparison is the thief of joy. Your wedding sounds lovely – and by doing something completely different, I would think you’re much less likely to get comparisons from guests. I don’t compare weddings I go to – I enjoy each for what it is, not get upset about what it isn’t. So long as I am fed and have a drink or two, I’m happy! A waffle bar sounds amazing, by the way – I’d be super happy to arrive at a wedding and find that waiting!

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I really, really want to go to a brunch wedding! I love brunch, it’s the best! We thought about having a brunch wedding ourselves but neither of us are morning people so we decided it wasn’t a good idea.

I’ve been to all kinds of weddings and they are all great in thier own way. Focus on yourself and your wedding and don’t worry about what others are doing.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

It will be different. Who’s to say better or worse? I’ve never been one to “compare” weddings personally. They’re all different. I would come into a Sunday brunch wedding with different expectations than a Saturday night black tie wedding. There are different factors to both that I would enjoy. As long as I get fed, get to dance, and have a drink in my hand, that’s all I truly care about. And the love I have for the bride and groom. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

the location and don’t make the wedding, the food, music, and people do.  but mostly the people.

i went to the Long Island wedding that must have cost a fortune, 300 people, gorgeous venue (actually where my parents got married, so that was pretty cool).  cocktail hour was amazing.  but the reception sucked.  the food was terrible, the room was so crowded you could barely move between tables or be on the dance floor.  and i rarely remember centerpieces but theirs were ugly. that was my least favorite wedding i have ever been to.

then i’ve been to a budget 50 person wedding, where the people were awesome, the music was perfect for everyone and we danced the night away and the food was pretty good too. this one is in my top 5 of favorite weddings.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Definitely agree with PPs that you needn’t worry about people making comparisons. I went to three weddings within about a month of each last year and I definitely wasn’t thinking about comparing thing, just enjoying them – particularly as they were each so different, and it sounds like yours will be very different from these others too.

Probably the first one will be hard, as you loved the venue too – but people would be much more inclined to compare if they had been to a wedding there and then went to yours in the same place.

Do the things that you want to do and people will be able to focus on enjoying their day with you!

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Less is more!

Post # 10
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Busy bee

Your wedding sounds cozy and amazing! And I’ve been to a wedding that cost over 100k. They had premium open bar with the best drinks, crazy flower centerpieces, filet mignon for dinner, a 12 person band, etc. But I honestly did not enjoy it that much. I actually enjoyed my other friends budget wedding because you could just really feel the love between them and it felt more cozy. The fancy one just felt like a “look how rich we are” show. So spending more money on it does not make it the best. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

Honestly, it sounds like your wedding will be the one that stands out the most. The rest all seem fairly similar so if anyone has the gull to compare weddings, it will be between those that are similar. Your wedding seems like it would be very refreshing after attending so many “parties.” 

 

Also, who would ever consider a waffle bar to be anywhere near lame?! That sounds ahhhmazing! 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

 The waffle bar sounds incredible! 

Those weddings all sound similar and yours is the one that stands out as different. In a good way! People wont be comparing your wedding to theirs because yours is completely different and I would embrace that! Make your wedding the one where everyone feels chilled out, relaxed and intimate with food and great conversation. A wedding with fancy dinner and dancing is great but so is a picnic wedding with a hog roast. Its not that one is better than the other, just that they give off different atmospheres. Its not the money spent that determines a good wedding!

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

loveyourground :  

Personally, I think a brunch wedding sounds amazing and will be a welcomed change for your guest who have just attended several similar weddings. I say embrace the brunch and tone of your wedding and you can make the brunch feel very chic and special.

 

I totally understand being bummed about attending a wedding at your ideal venue. My top picks were already booked when we started planning and I think I would have a tinge of jealousy if I attended a wedding at one of those venues. As I’ve heard before, “Theres’s always someone prettier, richer, smarter.” The same is true of weddings. Someone whill always spend more money, be more creative, have a bigger crowd ect. It makes it even harder when you’ve had to lower your inital expecations, but I’m sure on the morning of your wedding you will not be thinking about the past weddings you attended. Focus more on how happy you are to be marrying the love of your life. There’s nothing lame or boring about that!!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

Your wedding sounds fantastic. You had me at waffle bar. 😍 Expensive does not always equal good time. Here’s what keeps me happy – a seat, comfortable temperature, delicious food (don’t care how it looks if it tastes meh thats a fail), great people, good conversation and a nice selection of music. Bonus if the ceremony was short and speeches/toasts/special dances were non-existent or under 3 minutes. Only been to three weddings but my favorite was a Sunday brunch. Worst was Saturday evening, food was bland, couple was stressed and the music sucked. We planned on brunch but our families aren’t familiar with the concept. My fathers reaction for instance, “So we’re having breakfast for lunch? After we just had breakfast that morning?” 😩 Never mind. Changed it to a Cuban lunch menu. Enjoy your day and don’t worry about making comparisons.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

Sounds like all of the bees have your back that your wedding is going to be amazing and I agree. But at the same time I totally get what you’re saying as I have had similar feelings about my friends and family who have weddings around the same time I do. 

To me, the weddings that I liked the best were unique in that they tailored the event to suit the couple’s style. Someone can spend $50K on a wedding and it will look lovely but it can still be totally basic and boring if they don’t have any personal touches. Make sure that your wedding reflects YOU and you don’t have to worry about comparing yourself to others.

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