- 3 years ago
It’s fun being engaged and having anxiety!
My fiance and I are working on a semi strict budget for our wedding. We want to make sure our guests have a nice time but we also don’t want to break the bank and would rather spend money on a big honeymoon or doing some major renovations in our house. As a result, I’ve had to nix a lot of the unique venues I had been looking at because they are just TOO pricey…and we’re moving toward the hotel/ballroom/country club route (which I’m bummed about but I’m trying to keep my priorities in order.) Brunch reception (I’m jazzed about a waffle bar but I don’t know if everyone else would be), limited flowers, basic favors, DIY centerpieces and decor, basic dress and none of the fun and fancy stuff I had fallen into the trap of wanting but have now realized isn’t feasible.
On top of that, we are going to be attending FOUR weddings over the next year and a half…ours being the fifth and last of the bunch. All of them are close people to us (two of my fiance’s close cousins, one of my close cousins, and one of my best friends) and the more I learn about what they’re doing with their weddings, the more I feel like mine is going to be straight up lame compared to everyone elses. I know, I know…it’s a dumb worry. Doesn’t stop me from feeling it right now!
The first wedding we’re going to be attending (we just found out) is at a venue we researched a bit, LOVED, but was out of our price range. I’ll be real, that kind of stings.
The second is going to be a balls to the wall affair. She’s going all out with food, making these beautiful centerpieces, the venue is really nice and I know it’s going to be a PARTY.
Third wedding is at a venue I’ve been at before. The bride’s mom is really taking charge on a lot of things (first daughter getting married) so I’m also expecting it to be a fairly all out shindig.
Fourth wedding is at a super, super upscale venue in the city…price per head is nearly DOUBLE what we’re looking at for our wedding. The guest minimum for a Saturday is 200 so this is going to be a huge thing.
And then there’s us. Sunday brunch at a country club. Whomp. Since there’s going to be a lot of overlap in guests lists for these weddings and ours, I’m worried about any comparisons being made and wanting people to enjoy themselves as much at our wedding as they do at the others. And as much as I tell myself that a big party is not really our speed, we have other financial priorities besides the wedding, the important part is that I’m marrying my fiance, etc etc etc…I’m just stuck in comparison mode and feeling kinda crappy about it all.
I don’t know exactly what the point of this post is. Maybe it’s just to vent a little. Maybe its to see if anyone else did this/feels the same…and if you did, how did you work through it? I know I sound ridiculous…but man, feelings tend to be ridiculous from time to time!