Dumb worry – Concerned my reception is going to be lame in comparison!

posted 2 years ago in Reception
Post # 31
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3865 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Are you kidding, I adore brunch! Would pick waffle bar over alcohol bar any day of my life. A fancy venue and $200-a-head meal doesn’t make their weddings ‘better’ than yours, just more expensive haha. Seriously no one cares if the centrepieces are DIY or if there aren’t flowers everywhere (those things applied to my wedding too and everyone said it was awesome). They’re going to remember yours because it was different to all the other dinner weddings.

Post # 32
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

loveyourground :  When it comes to weddings the most important things to me are comfort (ie: everyone having a seat for the ceremony AND reception), good food/drinks, and being time-appropriate. I would not expect a long drawn out affair or big party/dancing at a morning wedding and brunch reception. As a wedding photographer I’ve had plenty of them and they’ve all been fine. Yes it’s not a party – but not every wedding has to be…and it’s totally fine at that time of day.

Post # 33
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950 posts
Busy bee

Sending hugs!

Look on the bright side, if you’re having an amazeballs honeymoon, that would be so much fun and last longer than their weddings! Or better yet if the money is going into your house, why not invite them around when it’s done so they could see how lovely it is (and you get to keep and live in your house forever!) Bet your ass they’d be jealous over it haha.

Your wedding sounds great. I know how you feel, we all feel this way at some point in our lives, focus on the nice things you ARE doing for your wedding, and let the cards fall! 🙂

Post # 34
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Blushing bee

loveyourground :  too shouldn’t worry about these things at all. I’ve been to all sorts of weddings at the ones I remember (with positive feelings)are the intimate ones that had lots of laughter and enjoyment. Funny enough, those aren’t the ones where lots of money was spent on. 

Post # 36
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490 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

No one wants to go to 5 identical weddings!  I get it, we’re in a similar situation, our wedding is the last of 4 this year, so same group of friends, lots of over lap – I figure that as long as there is food and wine, no one will really compare each wedding to the others.  We have already had 2 of our 4 weddings (2 weekends appart) they were both very different and both lovely and perfectly suited to the couple whos day it was.

Post # 37
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Bumble Beekeeper

Your brunch reception sounds lovely and I think will be a pleasing contrast to all the typical evening weddings coming before yours. I actually think there will be less comparison since your whole concept is so different from the other weddings. Don’t sweat it!

Post # 38
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306 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I agree with all of the above. The two most memorable weddings I’ve been to have been budget affairs. One was easily sub $3k but the bride and groom were SO IN LOVE and their friends were so happy and awesome that the fact it was a pot luck in a park didn’t make it worse, it was just a blast. Money does not make a wedding awesome, the people do. And most importantly the fact that YOU are getting married at yours, that will make it amazing for you and the people who care about you.

Is my wedding going to be some amazing stylish affair documented on stylemepretty, nope probably not. But it’s MY wedding, where I get to marry my husband and remember us saying our vows to each other and making our public declarations of love and commitment. It probably won’t be objectively the best wedding that our guests have been to. But none of those other weddings can compare to my own where I get to marry my husband.

There will always be a more expensive, more stylish wedding out there. But none of those wedding can hold a candle to the one where you get to marry your husband with your closest friends and family. No matter what you do or what your budget is it will be perfect so long as you wind up Married at the end of the day!

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