Post # 1
Ok, to make a short story long, it seems I recently made the mistake of holding on to a summer fling a bit too long. I met a fantastic guy over the summer while vacationing in his region. We kept in touch with the hopes of reconnecting as I had plans to move closer to him in the near future.
Recently, I completed the move, and while I am still a considerable distance (4hr drive) from him we made tenative plans to see each other soon, once we are available at the same time.
Yesterday, I was txting him with the usual flirtatious small talk, and he txtd me:
“Ginger_snap, I am not going to be able to come to (my city). I have started seeing someone in (his city). I am sorry. I wish you all the best and hope your time in (my city) is great”
Well, boo. I responded kindly and said I understood, which he thanked me for. And really, I do understand- he should be dating people in his region as should I. Admittedly, due to our lives’ circumstances I had no expectations of persuing a committed relationship with this guy…even if I may have fantasized about it. But, bees, I can’t help but be pouty today! I really felt the fireworks and was really looking forward to spending time with him.
Why did he have to get a girlfriend just after I moved 1,500 miles closer? It feels like the last 3 mos of anticipation were just a tease! I know, I know, I have no right or reason to be upset but I feel let down, rejected and even a little embarrassed.
Talk some sense into me pleeeeease!
Post # 3
@ginger_snap: How do you know you won’t meet a fabulous guy in the new city you’re in? Seems like you have a lot more possibilities now 🙂
Post # 4
Now you’re free to meet an even better guy in your city! I know you’re probably bummed, but think of the positive! After first eating an entire box of cookies.
Post # 5
@ginger_snap: He sounds like a gentleman for the way he did not lead you on. Keep an eye out for a similarly respectful man in your neck of the woods.
I don’t blame you for being bummed. I had my heart trampled when my college crush guy friend turned out to be gay. Oh why?!
Post # 6
I know, I know. Getting out there and meeting people is a challenge in a new city, especially since I am still looking for work, but I am ready to get out there! And hopefully these chocolate filled cookies cool down soon so I can gorge. 😀
Post # 7
@LilRhodyGem: Is it weird that somehow makes it worse? Very respectful and gentleman-like. Boo!
Edit: Felt I should clarify that makes it worse in terms of letting him go. He absolutely approached it in the best way he could have.
Post # 8
@ginger_snap: Oh that is a bummer! I’d be feeling the exact same way as you are! BUT now get dolled up and go find another exciting fun new guy to date! Before I met DH I went on a bunch of first dates.. I was being picky so most just became friends but it was a blast getting out and meeting new people! In the end I met my dream guy – woohoo! Have fun in your new city!
Post # 9
So weird… I totally could have written this post!! Right before FI and I started dating, I was living in my hometown. I met a guy who was vacationing there, and he seemed so great! He went back to his home on the opposite side of the country, and we texted off and on, and then a few months later I moved fairly near there for graduate school! We were planning a visit for him to come see me, and then he texted and said he’d started seeing someone just very, very recently, and he was very sorry.
I wasn’t like, heartbroken, but I was a little bummed, for sure! All of that fun and anticipation for nothing!
….and then I met my FI, who is a bajillion times more perfect for me than that guy, or any other guy I’ve ever known!
In other words, I completely know where you’re coming from, and I hope your story has a similarly awesome way of working out!
Post # 10
@ginger_snap: Aww, bummer! But be happy for him, you’ll find someone too!
Post # 11
@ginger_snap: :Hugs: I’m sorry. There’s no two ways about it–the situation just plain sucks. But hopefully you’ll be fending off the guys in your new city. Or maybe this thing with the other girl won’t work out and you’ll reconnect one day (not wishing any ill will on his current relationship, lol, just pointing out a possibility). I’m sure you’ll meet a lot of awesome guys once you get settled in. 🙂
As an aside, I love you username…
Post # 12
@Sunfire: Ehhh, being happy for him is a little bit of a stretch at this moment but I will work on it :). At this time I can’t help but be a little jealous. Silly emotions.
Post # 13
@LilRhodyGem: That kind of happened to me before. My first kiss/boyfriend now has a lovely boyfriend of his own.
@MrsYokiman: Thank you for the compliment on my username, will have to credit that to my snack of choice today, haha!
@howsweetitis: Here’s hoping! 🙂 Glad everything worked out for you, wish me luck!
Post # 14
@ginger_snap: aw dang that sucks. He def should have told you sooner! Just a heads up before the move or during the process would have been nice especially since im sure you two walked a lot about hanging out. Don’t worry – enjoy your new adventures in your area. 4 hours is still a long way for a relationship. Find someone close by.
Post # 15
@ginger_snap: Something like that happened to me too, while I was in grad school. He started to date, more seriously, this one girl in his city and what do ya know, they eventually got married and have a kid now. These situations can’t be helped and it’s good that he was mature about letting you know and you seem to be handling it well. A little heartbreak is always inevitable but now it’s time to date it up in your city!
Post # 16
That’s too bad. At least he had the balls to tell you so you wouldn’t wonder. A lot of guys don’t do that, unfortunately.
I would mope for a few days, and then get on with it. Hopefully you will meet a great new guy soon 🙂