(Closed) Duo Communion…Rude?

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I have never been to a wedding that had communion, but as someone unfamiliar with the actual ettiquette around it, if I were a guest at a wedding where only the bridal couple took communion, I would be a little offended.  

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’ve seen it done really beautifully. The Bride and Groom washed each others feet and served each other communion.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

make sure your officant is okay with this.. my pastor had three rules, he would not do communion during a ceremony, he would not take the word- God out of ceremony,-we could have any christain ceremony-baptist lutheran presybrtain ect but it all had to include God and the third thing was really trivia but i cant remember it

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I been to a lot of catholic weddings because of my Family and I have never been to a wedding where only just the bride and groom take communion. It only takes a couple of minutes and since everyone  there isn’t catholic that saves time too. Maybe you should ask your priest/ Pastor  if you aren’t catholic.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

If you want just you and your Fiance to take communion, how about doing it privately, right after you sign your license? If you’re keeping the ceremony at 20 minutes, you don’t have the time for your guests to take communion. I’m protestant, and unless it was a Catholic ceremony, where I can’t take communion, it would bother me a little.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Is communion the thing where you eat the piece of bread/wafer and drink wine?  I went to a Catholic wedding once where everyone who was there who was Catholic went up to get their stuff, and those of us who were not Catholic had to sit there like morons while people shoved by us (not that your guests would do this. Smile).  So, if you do it, I’d have just the two of you do it.  Otherwise your non-Catholic guests will feel VERY awkward and left out.   And regardless of how politely people move past each other, they’ll be a logistic issue of getting those who are going up past those who are not.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@HueysLuda:  If it’s a Catholic church, and you’re not Catholic, I’d bet you’d be hard pressed to find a priest who would give you communion.  In other denominations there are sometimes different rules, but absolutely no way in a Catholic church is a non-Catholic supposed to take communion.  I think the bottom line on this is check with your officiant.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

oh ok I don’t know how people of other faiths do communion, I do know that catholic churches have a lot of rules and the most likly wouldnt allow that, so you guys are lucky that isnt the case.

I think it depends what the norms are for weddings in your faith,  what the guest expectations would be. Hopefully since it`s your big day and something you wanted to do for just the two of you no one will mind.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

Communion is supposed to be a sign of unity, so there’s something a little off about having the couple take communion but excluding the congregation.

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