Post # 1
I want to start off by saying that I am NOT complaining. We are extremely grateful for ALL of the gifts we received, and know they were given out of love and thoughtfulness. I am just curious to see if these kinds of things happened to anyone else.
First of all- did you get duplicate gifts off the registry? We got, realtively, quite a few (maybe 6 or 7). I am not surprised that it happened, but I’m a little surprised at the number of times it did. I know it’s easy enough to buy something and not check it off the registry, so I understand, and that is what receipts are for! but it did get a little comical as we opened duplicate gifts (at one point, strangely enough, we opened two of the same gift back to back! Luckily neither gift giver was at the gift opening, because everyone had a good laugh at that… )
secondly- did anyone else have people confused over your new last name? On our invitation we went pretty traditional and had our names as “my first name my middle name” marries “his first name his middle name”. I have seen this set up many times before. But I had three different people (relatives that I don’t see very often) give us a card with his MIDDLE name as our last name, and wrote a check out to me as “my first name, his middle name” woops! and one of the people didn’t sign it either! It’s funny, I work in fundraising, so of course my instinct when seeing a check that is unsigned or made out wrong is to call and clear things up, but I can’t do that in this case, or i’ll just look greedy!
And now that I’ve talked about the weird things, I want to take a moment to show off one of the BEST gifts we received. MY new brother in law and his wife had an artist friend of theirs do a custom painting for us of our dog. I think our reactions are priceless…
Any weird gift related things happen to you? what was one of your favorite gifts?
Post # 3
The duplicate gifts are common. I set up a C&B registry just for me, bought some things from it, said it was from the registry just in case someone searched my name their, and nothing was marked as bought. Others will buy from another store and not call the registry, or just forget to say anything at the checkout.
I haven’t seen the middle name, usually all the names are listed so I would have been a bit confused.
Post # 4
@delovely13: I don’t think it would be greedy at all for you to call up someone who has already given you a gift and let them know they didn’t sign the check or addressed it incorrectly. I wouldn’t outright “demand” they replace it, but I think you can handle it properly to just let them know. Personally, I’d much rather have someone let me know about the error than go on forever wondering why they didn’t cash my check.
Post # 5
I got a gift that wasn’t on the registry and didn’t include a card, so I don’t know who it came from! I’m sending thank you’s to people who attended but didn’t bring a gift, so I’m hoping that I have someone call and say – hey, didn’t you get the white serving bowl we gave you? Because I have no idea how else to figure out who gave it to us.
Post # 6
Was the groom’s last name listed anywhere on the invite? If not, I can see why people would be confused.
We had a gift that the card got detached from. After all the gifts were opened and checks were cashed, I peeked at who on my guest list hadn’t gifted us and actually ended up being right on my hunch. It was one of my friends, and I was comfortable enough asking, “Hey um….did you happen to get us a stockpot?” But I know I got lucky on that hunch, and it’s not always easy. I stressed about that stockpot for a whiiile.
Love the dog portrait!
@JenGirl: If you’re sending thank-yous to everyone anyway, I wouldn’t worry too much! I know how frustrating that is though.
Post # 7
@Gemstone: Yeah, I figure that the worst that could happen is that somebody forever wonders why they got thanked for coming but I didn’t mention their nice bowl! But I think it’ll be fine. Now I just have to actually write all the thank yous!
Post # 8
We didnt have duplicates because a) only one person bought off our registry but they also didnt bother to check it off…probably because they saw no one bought lol (mostly money in cards). We did get a few other gifts and one was 2 boxes….super heavy, tied together….NO CARD. We think it got ripped off somehow or fell off.
We had no idea who gave it and there were too many people who didnt gift at all to figure it out. There was another gift that was “attached” so to speak but it looked out of place. We ended up asking that person if they had also given us the bakeware but they didnt (it was a close friend we knew wouldnt mind if we asked). We did find out only a few weeks ago it was one of the IL’s friends. I told my MIL about it and she was like “if its red its from so and so!!!” lol
what a fiasco