Post # 1
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Busy bee
My boyfriend’s aunt hosts quite a few family functions and dinners during the year. His cousin has been dating a guy for quite a while. They are fairly heavy when it comes to PDA. The last couple of outings they have sneaked off to her room. His aunt acts very embarrassed when they do this. His grandparents are still living and it just makes for an awkward set of circumstances. To make it worse the downstairs bathroom is connected to her bedroom. I think they could be a bit more respectful but that’s just me.
Would you feel comfortable doing this during family functions? Do you think it’s disrespectful?
Post # 3
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Helper bee
@Kacey23: I am soooo not comfortable doing that sort of thing with family around. I think it’s a bit rude first of all, and also really awkward! At night, sure, but sneaking off during the day or when everyone is hanging out together – I couldn’t even relax enough to have any fun.
Post # 5
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Busy bee
Umm, I think its pretty disrespectful and could never do that with my family around. Seems awkward!
Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
I thought you were going to ask about holding hands and pecks and hugs, which I’m totally guilty of. But that’s because I count that stuff as “affection” and not ” sexy”. But sneaking off to a bedroom during a family affair? Hells to the no! I don’t even like to have sex with my husband when we spend the night at my dad’s house even if e eryone else is asleep!
Post # 7
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Helper bee
@Kacey23:
I think it is very disrespectful. My brother and his Girlfriend did this when we were all at my parents’ house for the holidays and we all felt so awkward and uncomfortable. The guest room they were sleeping in is right near the kitchen so we actually heard them. It was gross. Ultimately, we all just stayed away from the kitchen until they were done. I felt super embarrassed for my mom and I know all the guests felt uncomfortable also.
I also thought it sucked that my family “blamed” my brother’s Girlfriend like “what kind of girl would do that?!?”. No one said anything to her directly but there was plenty of conversation behind their backs. I think they were both equally disrespectful and inconsiderate. I don’t understand how people think they’re “sneaking off” in these types of situations.
Post # 8
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Sugar bee
Oh god no. We have a pretty active sex life, but I draw the line at including my family as props. ick!
Post # 9
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Helper bee
Nope, nope, nope! I would not feel comfortable with that. It’s rude and icky and awkward, if you ask me.
Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
Nope. That’s so disrespectful. If your Aunt is just acting embarassed about it and not doing anything about …. perhaps it’s time to move family functions to someone else’s house.
Holy crap my Grandma would have turned the hose on us. I can’t imagine anyone in my family a. putting up with it, b. not saying anything
Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
Um, no. I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t be in the mood anyway when I’m chilling with granny LOL. If they have been together for a while they have plenty of time to “be together,” so doing it when they know people are around is just disrespectful, and it comes off to me as an attention seeking behavior.
Post # 12
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Sugar bee
That sounds awful! I could never do that. Never. But I do wonder, are they sneaking off for sexy time for sure? A lot of times during family functions Fiance and I slip away just to get away. I’m often overwhelmed by too many people in one house and Fiance just likes to hide with me.
Post # 13
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Busy bee
It’s just totally weird! His aunt just keeps letting them do this. I figured she would have said something after the first time.
Post # 14
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Honey bee
No way. Especially when its obvious what is going on. Thats embarassing and awkward for everyone! I really would not want my or my DH’s family to be aware of that.
Post # 16
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Busy bee
@Kacey23: I’d never dream of doing that during a family function. I’m weird about anything more than a kiss on the cheek when we are in public.
