Post # 1
Bees- When the situation arises, how do you and your partner deal with uncomfortable things during the act? Example: your partner is riding you or doing something that’s uncomfortable, do you have a code word, a look, or something that doesn’t involve saying Ouch or Stop and totally killing the mood? Thanks
Post # 2
You just voice your thoughts. You shouldnt just be having uncomfortable sex.
Post # 3
I don’t find saying “ouch” ruins the mood at all! Sometimes we’ll hit an angle that’s too deep and hurts and I just say “oh too deep babe!” and we just transition to a new position. We are very verbal/vocal during sex though, so I could imagine it might feel more weird to say “ouch” if you are not using any other words. I think you just have to view it as important communication that leads to better pleasure for you both, which is therefore, hot!
Post # 4
dawn53813 : I have an IUD so sometimes, in certain positions, I’ll feel some discomfort. I’ll usually say, “oof let’s adjust” and we’ll grab some pillows to adjust the angle. If that doesn’t work I’ll say “let’s switch” and we’ll move to a different position entirely. Saying these things never ruins the mood for us, if it does for you guys maybe you should explore why it does. Talk to your partner and let him know the things he does that cause you pain, that way he can avoid them in the future and won’t be caught off guard when you correct him during the deed.
Post # 5
I think a codeword or a previously decided-upon “something” would kill the mood more than just matter-of-factly saying “hey, let’s switch this up”. Open, honest communication in whatever form works for the two of you is key.
Post # 6
I’m a big fan of the classic “ah fuck… in a bad way.”
Then the ol’ switcheroo of positions.
Post # 7
I just say what I need to move or adjust. It doesn’t ruin anything.
Post # 8
No secret phrases here. We just say “that’s not working” or the equivalent and then keep going.
Post # 9
I just said “ouch” like 15 minutes ago lol
Post # 10
I just say ouch, or let’s switch to a differnt position, etc. And we never have felt like it has killed the mood. Our sex life is going quite well honestly and we believe that it has to do with how great we communicate our wants, likes and needs before, during and after so we always know what the other would enjoy.
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2019 - Tacoma, WA
“Ooof, that’s not working” or “okay hang on that hurts” or “can we try this way instead?” is all I need to say. Usually there’s a check-in anyway if I seem “off” somehow, so it’s not really a concern for me. But, I would just outright say what’s not working so it can be worked around. It has never killed the mood for us.