Post # 1
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Blushing bee
The beginning of our wedding planning process was painful. FI had so many opinions and wanted to be overly involved in every aspect. It slowed things down so much. Now he’s pretty much over this planning thing…and he’s gone radio silent.
So now we fuss about everything I need him to do, he nods and says okay and then nothing aaaarrrgghhh!!! I’m confident he’ll do it last minute, but I’m a planner and a little impatient and I want it done now. LOL.
What have you and FI fallen out about with the wedding planning
Post # 3
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376 posts
Helper bee
Everything. We argued about everything during the wedding planning process. It was such a stressful time. Before we got engaged we barely argued and now that we are married we rarely argue. During that planning process things between us were pretty annoying lol.
boy am I glad it’s over!
Post # 4
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1936 posts
Buzzing bee
@BrideofGroomzilla: No fights yet! But, I assume it’ll be when I start nagging him to get his checklist done! Also a planner versus a procrastinator here 🙂
Post # 5
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731 posts
Busy bee
@BrideofGroomzilla: We argue the most about putting stuff off… I want it done now but he would rather wait… UGH!
Post # 6
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Blushing bee
I’m finding the whole planning thing pretty stressful. We are planning a destination wedding in Italy, and within the first two weeks of planning I was ready to elope. Between emailing venues, looking for ideas, etc; I just knew that wedding planning wasn’t going to be for me. We quickly hired a wedding planner, and since then things have been far less stressful. I think the key is just deciding once you have a perfect venue, to stop looking! I was so concerned their could be something bigger and better, I found myself ready to book one venue, then emailing others I found. Having someone that knows what I like help me narrow it down has been super helpful.
We are paying for the wedding ourselves, so we still tend to argue or rather discuss budget issues quite frequently.
Post # 7
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Busy bee
Nothing yet. We have 5 months to go so it could still happen. I’m trying to remember how blessed we are to a) be in love and b) have the means to have a wedding. Everything else isn’t important!
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
The guest list was the absolute only thing we ever disagreed on. We had a limit of 150 guests and his mom gave me a list that was 87 just from their family. I flipped out. I wanted to be fair and make everyone happy but he and I are both from divorced families so that was just 1 of the sides
Post # 9
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Busy bee
Having too many choices! I like a lot of things and FI is ok with settling on the first thing we both like. That’s the only thing that continues to be a bit of a problem. We are having fun for the most part.
Post # 10
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Sugar bee
@BrideofGroomzilla: We didn’t argue about anything wedding related, but there was a short time where I was stressed with the planning, and I think I sort of started picking fights over stupid stuff (none of it wedding related)- just because I was stressed. I didn’t realize I was doing it at the time, and DH never said anything (bless him for being so understanding)-
Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
@BrideofGroomzilla: Absolutely everything big. I want a 400 guest, Catholic wedding followed by a dance reception. FI wants a 30 guest, outdoor secular wedding, no reception or cake and punch at most.
Post # 13
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Helper bee
no fights..but we agreed on 60 people..on my side im inviting 18…i told him he could have 42 people…yet he seems to want more …he says he wants a small wedding, yet wants to invite the world….SOOO annoying
Post # 14
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Sugar bee
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
Me drinking and “partying” 🙁 He thinks I’m going to get trashed.
Also, he wants everything done yesterday and I’m more cautious. This is related to: he doesn’t “see” money, and I’m trying desperately not to go bankrupt over this.
Post # 15
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Blushing bee
MissDarthVader glad to know I’m not alone. The planning has made us argue way more than we ever had before. I dont like it very much and I’m so ready to get back to normal.
lynnielou33193 +1 We’re having the procrastination conversation about the guest list. It’s a nightmare, getting his folks with addresses, and proper titles.
Tbmtb Amen!! I wanted a destination wedding, and compromised for a traditional wedding. After a few months into planning I want to chuck the whole thing and elope. Still wish I had LOL
mjwyatt84 Me and FI argued about kids at the wedding, with our large families, kids added an additional 30-50 ppl, which can get expensive to feed. Eventually he agreed after seeing the price tag, but it was painful process.
Kwhoa I’m guilty of that too. I hated the vetting of vendor process. After I met the first one I wanted to make a decision. FI insisted we get at least 3 quotes, and interviewed each vendor. I wasn’t happy but we saved money using his method
MrsEME +1
HonoraryNerd 400 ppl, wow that’s a lot. We had the same challenges we both were excited about getting married, but we never discussed what type of wedding we wanted. Many spats and tears later…we settled on traditional 200ppl wedding. But I really wanted ( and still do) a small destination wedding. I think when the ideas are so different someone ultimately has to give in…this time it was me.
prahajess I can’t tell you the spats we’ve had over the budget. His motto was ” you only get married once” My motto was the Wedding is Saturday, Bills are due on Monday. So I have been very cautious. It helped us to put together a list of our MUST HAVES and we spent our money there. Everything that was secondary, I tried to DIY or very budget friendly options.
Did I mention I HATE putting together the guest list..it’s so tedious.
Post # 16
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Busy bee
choices (I’m indecisive he’s open to any and every option) and money
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