(Closed) DV Update

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3799 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You did not play chicken by waiting until you were away from him for him to find out a report was filed, that was the safest thing you could have done!

Thank you for the update and I am very proud of you for doing this. Stay strong. It’s so great to finally read an update from a Bee that took initiative and removed herself from the situation!

Post # 4
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2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I have a lot of respect for you for doing such a brave thing, and most importantly, the right thing.  You were absolutely right when you said you wouldn’t have had to do this in the first place if he’d never laid a hand on you.  Just know that you have a lot of support here, a lot of prayers for you, and a place to vent to.  Best of luck to you in this process – you are obviously a very strong soul.

Post # 5
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2522 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

You did the right thing.  My guess is he’ll play nice for awhile and he’ll resort back to old habits.  I don’t trust that this will improve his character one bit.

Post # 6
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10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree with Soyjoy. I’m so proud of you and so happy you’re taking action to protect yourself. I’m sending you lots of love and happy thoughts, stay safe. ((hugs))

 

Post # 7
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34 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2007

I’m very proud of you I know it will be hard but be strong.. 

Post # 8
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2651 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

What Soyjoy said. All of it. I am so proud of you!!!  If you do need someone to talk to, the bees are here, or you can PM me.  I know it’s hard. Been there done that. But it will get better! Love to you dear!

Post # 9
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2512 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I am glad to hear you made the right choice. 

My only other word of advice is find another place to live for 30 days. He is mad. He knows where you live. He has access to a gun. 

Post # 10
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5296 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

You did the right thing. He should not in *any* way be mad at you, he should be mad at himself. Wishing all the best for you.

Post # 11
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2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I know this is hard – sending supporting vibes your way. Don’t be afraid to reach out to a friend or family member for support. It might feel impossible, but I’m sure they would want to be there for you.

Post # 12
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5977 posts
Bee Keeper

I also wanted to chime in and say how proud of you I am! And you certainly did not do anything cowardly…you were making sure you were safe. I know that you’re hoping to salvage your marriage after this, but please be sure that you have a plan B in case he comes out of this counseling and nothing has changed. 

Post # 13
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2401 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Best update I’ve seen. I am so glad that you stuck to your guns. Dont let him guilt trip you. If he goes through the necessary training and steps, he will come back knowing that he cant just apologize this away.

Post # 15
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2825 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I am so glad you posted an update!!  And I’m so glad (and proud) that you did the right thing and filed a report.

I just hope that this time apart will make you realize that you are stronger than you thought and that you don’t need him bringing you down.  Try to go out with friends and get your mind off of that loser.  He’s only mad at you because you stood up for yourself.  Just be careful and don’t let him back into your life too quickly or easily… He needs to earn your trust again if you really want to try to make this work.

Post # 16
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1660 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

So sorry that you’re having a hard time but you absolutely did the right thing. Absolutely.

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