(Closed) DW – Any tips for involving MOB, FMIL etc in the wedding/planning?

posted 6 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
8362 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Ask Future Mother-In-Law to wrangle the groom and groomsmen. To keep them on track, make sure they eat and not drink too much (except water hehe) and to make sure they are all organised.

You could ask your mum to do the same thing as well but with your girls.

Alternatively you could ask them to greet guests as they arrive?

Post # 4
433 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@j_jaye:  +100


I’m a Destination Wedding bride, I agree with Jaye, they need to get the groomsmen organized because god knows they aren’t going to do it themselves…I’ve already visualized confused groomsmen wandering around the day of like lost children…put them on that and also on programs, passing them out, putting them on chairs, etc. Or give your MOB all the “stuff” you brought for the reception (table numbers, place cards, favors) and have her give it to the coordinator when they come the morning of to pick up your stuff. You can let them know that they will all have tasks and roles the day of, because even though your venue is doing most of the work there is still a lot of little details to take care of on game day.

Post # 6
8362 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Maybe talk to your step mom if you have a good relationship with her. I am sure she understands how poltical it will be on the day. Let her know that you want her invlolved and ask her what she would like to do. let her know how she is important but you don;t want to diminish the day for your mom or be put in the middle.

She is probably just as confused as you 🙂

Post # 7
115 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Mine asked and I assured them that I wanted all of us to be relaxed and just enjoy the day. We’ll start with a brunch with both sets of parents in the morning & just take it easy as we get prepped for the ceremony. For me, that relaxed environment was one of the big draws of doing a Destination Wedding wedding. And if your venue will handle everything, let them! Enjoy your time with your family!!

Post # 8
34 posts
  • Wedding: November 2012

I organised the morning of the wedding to have a spa treatment with my Mum Future Mother-In-Law bridemaids…Then the make-up artist is coming to get us all ready and I organised cocktail food to come to the room.  

I asked my mum to pick the food for our “girl” lunch and asked Future Mother-In-Law to pick the cocktails.  I then explained to them both we are having a Destination Wedding because we wanted everyone to relax and enjoy and that the hotel is doing all the hard work and their job is to smile enjoy and be pampered.  

They accepted this..

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