Post # 1
Anyone having (or who had) a destination wedding – by how many are you over-inviting?
I want as many potential guests as possible to have a good amount of advanced notice, and I’ve read that there’s typically a fair amount of declines for DWs, more than for local weddings… not sure how many save the dates & invites to send. Our venue capacity is 150, and I really want to have at least 120 guests.
Post # 4
I’m inviting the first set of people, waiting to hear back, and then inviting some more. Shh, don’t tell!
Post # 5
@peachacid: That’s what I was planning on doing too, but then I read a bunch of other message boards where people had said that they’d only had about 50% of people accept to their Destination Wedding. That would be WAY under for me, and I worry that the less time people have to plan, the less likely they can make it…which makes me think maybe I should over-invite by like 10-20%? Granted, my wedding isn’t out of the country like many DW’s, but it’s still a big trip for our super-spread out friends & fam.
Post # 6
My wedding is not a destination for the majority of my guests and I over invited by over 40 people. Out of 190 invited, hoping for no more than 150 people, 131 guests RSVP’d yes.
Post # 7
we’re inviting only up to our venue’s capacity and sending save the dates at a year out only to the “must invite” guests. they can RSVP starting a year out because its online.
We’ll start sending invites 6-9 months out. that’s early (6 months is more typical for a dw) but a number of guests have told us they like 9 months and the earlier the better. Those invites will have RSVP deadlines of 4 months out.
4 months out is the latest we’ll send any new invite due to declines. Those guests will have RSVP deadline of 3 months out. Them getting the invite at 4 months out (well before our hotel blocks close) seems like enough time. And we’ll probably only send 1 new invite out for every 2 declines just in case some prior declines change and decide/are able to come after all.
my guests tend to like earlier invites or RSVP deadlines. many have told me that they prefer having all info now or as early as is reasonable and they’ve asked me to set RSVP deadlines early enough so, even if they miss it, they can still get best priced flights and hotels after I remind them.
Post # 8
We overinvited about 40 ppl. If they all go, that’s great! If not, well that’s ok too. Our intended budget can handle up to 20-25 id say.
Post # 9
Semi-destination for us, since our hometown is Out of Town for everyone. We’re over-inviting our intended budget by about 20%, but our venue will hold everyone (and then some) and we’re ready to afford 100% attendance in the unlikely event that it were to happen.