(Closed) DW brides, how many invited vs how many came?

posted 5 years ago in Destination Weddings
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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lesbimarried :  We had about 80% but I have been to many DW’s some with 25% attendance and others with 90-100% attendance. I even went to one that had 110% because the bride and groom invited a travel compainion of some guests to join the celebrations.

Destination Wedding are the same as any wedding, no one can predict your rsvp response rate.

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We invited 116 and 68 attended which is almost 60% attendance. We got married in scotland

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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2016

These numbers seem crazy to me for a Destination Wedding lol…

We had 10 guest for our Destination Wedding in Hawaii, but only invited 14.

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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Do keep in mind that many people say Yes until it’s time to take the time off of work and pay for the cruise. If high attendance is your goal, then a Destination Wedding is not for you. If you have non-cruising guests (guests who come for the ceremony and leave before you depart port, assuming you’re getting married first thing on the trip while still in port), it’s a pretty annoying experience. It’s basically a long day of standing in lines and waiting around, a lot of hassle, no pre-event refreshment, an average ceremony and a rushed reception before they’re shooed out the door. It’s not awesome. Make sure they know what they are getting themselves into, when the invites go out.

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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

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ksn1219 :  I agree.  My list contains 32 guests which I thought was a lot.  I already know of 4 people who are unable to make it but have yet to send the formal invites.

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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

All of our guests came. But we only invited 25 people. In fact, one of our friends actually asked if he could come even though he wasn’t invited! We told him sure, why not! So we had 26 guests total. 

An Alaskan cruise sounds absolutely amazing (on my bucket list) but I would be careful just taking people’s word that they’re coming. People get excited about things like this and their first response to is want to go, but then reality sinks in. We got invited to a Destination Wedding in Vermont and when the bride first told us, before the formal invites went out, that we were invited we were super excited. We had never been to Vermont and I heard it was beautiful. But then the actual invitations came and it turned out it would’ve cost us over $1,000 for just 2 days (flights, hotel, car rental)! So we had to RSVP no. 

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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

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lesbimarried :  It wasn’t $1000 just for the hotel. It would’ve been over $1000 total for us to go. Flights to Vermont are NOT cheap, so that right there was over $800. Then the hotel block had a minimum 2-night stay for $250 per night. Plus the hotel/wedding was no where near the airport so we’d have to rent a car for the 4-hour drive. So closer to $1500 actually. 

That sounds like a great deal for the cruise. The thing is, it’s still a lot of money for a lot of people. Also, they’d have to commit to taking a whole week off of work. I know I couldn’t/wouldn’t do that for anyone except a super close friend or family member, no matter how close the port was to my home. You’re never going to know for sure until people start RSVPing. 

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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

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lesbimarried :  Yes it was great. Our guests came from basically 3 different friend groups that didn’t know each other at all. They all got along fabulously and now everyone is Facebook friends with each other (they all live in different states). It was exactly how I pictured it!

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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Im kind of in the same situation as you right now.

WE are having a Destination Wedding in the Domincan Republic at on Offsite restaurant ( the Jellyfish).

WE origianlly thought we would invited 40 people and Half MAYBE would attend. Then we started on the guest list :/

We now are inviting a total of 58 people ( that includes plus ones and children). We decided to give everyone a plus one regardless of their situation and are allowing our friends and families to bring thier children if they like. WE didnt want that to be a deal breaker.

 

So now what?

WE upped our aggressive savings plan. We now are budgeting for 58 guests. Our save the dates go out next week and the trip deposit is due at the end of the year. I think it is best just to assume EVERYONE is coming.

and my mum said you me the other day, “could you imagine, if everyone came?! what a party! that would be so fun.” 

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

We invited about 60 people and 18 are coming

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