Post # 1
We have picked an Alaskan Cruise. The departing and returning port is our home town. 105 guests live by the port. We have about 200 people on our invite list total.
We haven’t sent out invites but of those we have spoke to we have 90% “yes” rate at the moment. Plus friends asking if they can bring their parents not to come to the wedding but just to come with us….
So ladies, who travelled internationally, what was your invite count and what was your attendance?
Post # 2
We had about 80% but I have been to many DW’s some with 25% attendance and others with 90-100% attendance. I even went to one that had 110% because the bride and groom invited a travel compainion of some guests to join the celebrations.
Destination Wedding are the same as any wedding, no one can predict your rsvp response rate.
Post # 3
We invited 116 and 68 attended which is almost 60% attendance. We got married in scotland
Post # 4
These numbers seem crazy to me for a Destination Wedding lol…
We had 10 guest for our Destination Wedding in Hawaii, but only invited 14.
Post # 5
Do keep in mind that many people say Yes until it’s time to take the time off of work and pay for the cruise. If high attendance is your goal, then a Destination Wedding is not for you. If you have non-cruising guests (guests who come for the ceremony and leave before you depart port, assuming you’re getting married first thing on the trip while still in port), it’s a pretty annoying experience. It’s basically a long day of standing in lines and waiting around, a lot of hassle, no pre-event refreshment, an average ceremony and a rushed reception before they’re shooed out the door. It’s not awesome. Make sure they know what they are getting themselves into, when the invites go out.
Post # 6
I agree. My list contains 32 guests which I thought was a lot. I already know of 4 people who are unable to make it but have yet to send the formal invites.
Post # 7
All of our guests came. But we only invited 25 people. In fact, one of our friends actually asked if he could come even though he wasn’t invited! We told him sure, why not! So we had 26 guests total.
An Alaskan cruise sounds absolutely amazing (on my bucket list) but I would be careful just taking people’s word that they’re coming. People get excited about things like this and their first response to is want to go, but then reality sinks in. We got invited to a Destination Wedding in Vermont and when the bride first told us, before the formal invites went out, that we were invited we were super excited. We had never been to Vermont and I heard it was beautiful. But then the actual invitations came and it turned out it would’ve cost us over $1,000 for just 2 days (flights, hotel, car rental)! So we had to RSVP no.
Post # 8
ksn1219 : j9marie :
LOL and that’s is only 17 friends invited. The rest are family members we are regularly in touch with and spend time with as I told my fiancée I refused to have anyone there who hasn’t spent time with us as a couple even if they are family.
Nope. We don’t want a big wedding we just have large ass families.
And no, we will be married at sea, during the actual cruising, there will be no one permitted to walk on for the ceremony. I don’t want that hassle, everyone is in it for the week or not coming.
Awesome turn out!! Yeah we have had one friend already ask to add a parent of hers. Which is fine. She isn’t asking her mom be at the wedding just on the ship.
What you said is exactly our worry. Lots of people have Alaska on their bucket lists. About 105 live by the port we are departing from and my fiancée has a lot of cruisers in her family that do not live locally.
$1000 for 2 nights?! The cruise we picked is $799 for inside cabins and goes up for more luxurious rooms….all inclusive food and lodging for a week….no flights. WHY $1000?! Were the rooms made of gold?
I should probably note that my fiancée’s brother also had a destination wedding, invited the same people and did not receive the same level of excitement, not a single family member said they would go and not a single family member went. My fiancée is shocked that people are already saying yes when that did not happen for her brother.
So I have a reason for being concerned the number will be higher than I expected. Not being a weird bride thinking I’m going to have everyone I wanted there. I expected no one to be interested on my side except maybe 4 friends and 6 family members and I am happy with that. So once invites actually go out this will be interesting.
Post # 9
It wasn’t $1000 just for the hotel. It would’ve been over $1000 total for us to go. Flights to Vermont are NOT cheap, so that right there was over $800. Then the hotel block had a minimum 2-night stay for $250 per night. Plus the hotel/wedding was no where near the airport so we’d have to rent a car for the 4-hour drive. So closer to $1500 actually.
That sounds like a great deal for the cruise. The thing is, it’s still a lot of money for a lot of people. Also, they’d have to commit to taking a whole week off of work. I know I couldn’t/wouldn’t do that for anyone except a super close friend or family member, no matter how close the port was to my home. You’re never going to know for sure until people start RSVPing.
Post # 10
Oh ok gotcha. Still that is crazy!!
Thank you for your thoughts!
Invites will not be going out until March. I just wasn’t expecting any interest or minimal, already with the few we have spoken to. I thought we would have an intimate wedding. I know the guest list is large but that is just the size of our families and after my FBILs zero response, we just weren’t expecting the buzz we have gotten.
I am hoping for 30 but we have 33 interested of those super super close to us and see us regularly. So hopefully it will be an awesome small group that call gets along. Did you find your guests all hung out together or did their own thing?
Post # 11
Yes it was great. Our guests came from basically 3 different friend groups that didn’t know each other at all. They all got along fabulously and now everyone is Facebook friends with each other (they all live in different states). It was exactly how I pictured it!
Post # 12
That is what I hope for too. That is awesome!
Sounds like you had the dream group on your wedding trip!!
You have given me a bit of hope and relaxation. 🙂
Post # 13
Im kind of in the same situation as you right now.
WE are having a Destination Wedding in the Domincan Republic at on Offsite restaurant ( the Jellyfish).
WE origianlly thought we would invited 40 people and Half MAYBE would attend. Then we started on the guest list :/
We now are inviting a total of 58 people ( that includes plus ones and children). We decided to give everyone a plus one regardless of their situation and are allowing our friends and families to bring thier children if they like. WE didnt want that to be a deal breaker.
So now what?
WE upped our aggressive savings plan. We now are budgeting for 58 guests. Our save the dates go out next week and the trip deposit is due at the end of the year. I think it is best just to assume EVERYONE is coming.
and my mum said you me the other day, “could you imagine, if everyone came?! what a party! that would be so fun.”
Post # 14
We invited about 60 people and 18 are coming