Post # 1
heres the deal – my Fiance and I are having a Destination Wedding in NYC (from England) with 13 members of family.
The question is simple – do I HAVE to send notification to friends and family? Or is word of mouth generally acceptable now a days. But if I should send – when should I?
Post # 3
@Sparkidoodle: You don’t HAVE to send out marriage announcements, but it’s a very nice way to let friends and family know that they are “special” to you, even though they weren’t invited to the wedding.
Sending the notices after you return allows them to be worded naturally; in a “We had a lovely wedding and are now Mr. and Mrs. This is our new address (if applicable)” type way. This timing also prevents the announcemnt from being mistaken as a save the date or a vague invitation. It also lets everyone know how you would like to be addressed once married – whether you are changing your name or keeping your name.
Alternately, you could go the modern, impersonal route and just update your Facebook status to “married to Mr. New Husband” and change your name to reflect your preference. – Though that will just cover casual correspondence (i.e. people might not know if you prefer to be a Mrs. or a Ms., if you prefer to be Mrs. Husbands Name for formal things, etc.) This lets everyone on the internet know you’ve gotten married, so it doesn’t really feel like a real notification. It can also hurt feelings if there’s someone who thought you would tell them personally and they find out online.
Post # 4
@UmbrellaMoon: That is a REALLY good point re: people not getting a notification confused with it being an invite. And yes I hadn’t thought about how people would know how to address me, ie if I was keeping my maiden name etc. Thank you very much!