(Closed) DW – How many invited vs. how many guests were at wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Destination Weddings
  • poll: How many people did you invite vs. how many came to the wedding?

    invited less than 10

    invited less than 20

    invited less than 35

    invited less than 50

    invited less than 65

    invited 66+ people

  • Post # 32
    Member
    802 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    we invited 50 people, so with their +1s would make 100. and only 25 total are coming. its a cruise so i dont have to worry about anyone popping up. or not RSVPing this late in the game.

    Post # 33
    Member
    59 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    View original reply
    @jlc3:  My parents are contributing a lot, but my Fiance and I are paying for the majority.  It’s tricky, because I wonder why would all these randoms come to a Destination Wedding when they don’t know me so I know that I should probably not care, but then I hear brides say that the randoms do show up which freaks me out.  I guess the best thing to do is build a contingency fund for extra guests, and if they do now show up, then I can move it to the honeymoon fund. 

    View original reply
    @penguinbee:  Yay math!!!

    Post # 34
    Member
    506 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Wedding in Santorini, invited 24, 20 is coming. 

    Post # 34
    Member
    56 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    I’m having the same dilemma!! I’d like to keep the attendance under 50 but I put together a quick, off the top of my head, list and had that many to invite already!!!! Eeeeek!!! I’m sure a lot of them won’t come but you never know (as other bees have pointed out)!!

    Post # 35
    Member
    989 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Not married yet but our guest list for our Destination Wedding in Italy is about 75… we haven’t even sent the invites out yet but we think at least 65 will end up attending!

    Post # 37
    Member
    2843 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    We invited about 40, and I think everyone is coming.  I guess that’s what happens when you ask only family and super close friends.  Zoiks, I thought someone would say no!

    Post # 38
    Member
    3371 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I think we ended up inviting around 80, and 30 are coming. Our guest list is all over the place – Australia, Singapore, Hong Kong, China, Europe/UK and the US…and our wedding is in Bali. 

    Post # 39
    Member
    70 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    We invited 19 originally – 18 are attending. Getting married next week in Hawaii!

    Post # 40
    Member
    264 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Out of 100 invites (by family) only 4 families are coming. I’m kinda bummed about it but a lot of it comes down to money and/or not being able to take the time off from work. Also lots of my friends are pregnant or have multiple kids. Traveling out of the country isn’t high on their list. 

    Post # 42
    Member
    1772 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    We’ve invited in rounds, upping the number invited as we’ve gotten declines because we wanted 100-120 guests attending. we’ll invite abt 200 total. We’d gotten expected Nos from over 35 ppl before we invited anybody over 160. with all but 15-20 rsvps in, we can tell that we’ll have 112-125 guests attending total, so it’s worked out great. We also used the 0, 25, 50, 75, and 100% chance of attending for each guest to guesstimate our total numbers. 

    We’re having a domestic Destination Wedding that’s a 6+ hr drive/short plane flight for half the guests and a cross-country flight for the other half. All will need hotel rooms and travel except, 5 guests out of the 200 invited. It’s not a family vacation-type area.

    25% of our invited guests declined because they are extended family we aren’t close to who dont have money for travel (even if we’d had a hometown wedding or a wedding where my Fiance and I live now, these relatives would’ve been unable to attend). about 10% of our invited guests declined as families, couples, or one parent and their young children Because of having babies/young children or pregnancy. 

    Post # 43
    Member
    692 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    Invited around 80, had 28 or 29 can’t remember. All who came were from across the country. Also didn’t want anyone left out, but doing a good job at explaining it will be intimate really helps.

    Post # 44
    Member
    25 posts
    Newbee

    We invited 140 and 65 are attending. Wedding is in NOLA and most attending are coming from New England. However, we also have people traveling from Singapore, California, Florida, North Carolina and Virginia. My FH sand I are in our early 30’s and the majority of our guests will be friends. Many family members could not make it or did not feel the need since we are grown and not very close.

    Post # 45
    Member
    106 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We invited about 80 and only got about 35.  Our wedding was in New York and our guests were coming from PA, FL, MN, IL, WI… so almost everyone had to fly and get a hotel.

     

    Of the people who didn’t come, most of them were high school/college friends that we we wanted to invite but didn’t really expect them to travel, as well as some extended family members, 2nd cousins etc that we also didn’t really expect to come.  I think I had planned on expecting about 50 max of the 80 we invited, but only 35 came.

     

    We were pretty accurate on pegging who’d definitely come, who probably couldn’t afford to travel, who we wanted to send an invite to but knew wouldn’t show up.

     

     

    The topic ‘DW – How many invited vs. how many guests were at wedding?’ is closed to new replies.

    Find Amazing Vendors