Post # 1
Are any of you having a DW and your parents not attending? Financially this is the best option for the FI and I and won’t make us go broke. The wedding we were planning state side is over $10K which we refuse to do.. The FI parents are all for joining us, my parents however are not. Mom thinks it’s to expensive and won’t even accept us paying for a portion of her trip or all of it. I just got off the phone with her and she is more accepting of us going into debt to have a state side then doing the DW. Anyone running into this situation?
Post # 3
From what I read, I think there’s something more to it than money.
She says it’s too expensive to go, yet she will not let you help her pay for it even if this would be less expensive for you than a traditional wedding. It doesn’t add up.
I would write down the numbers with her and as you show her that it doesn’t make sense, ask her what really bothers her. It may be because she’s afraid of travelling? Or she’s upset that other family members won’t get to see you get married (I know both of these were bothering my mom; she eventually got over it as she understood how it was important for me to have her there).
You have time until the wedding, I hope she comes around!
Post # 4
I think you need to have a talk with your parents and get to the bottom of it.
Post # 5
All is well.. Mom called me yesterday morning and apologized, said it’s my day and supports me 100%. I asked if that meant she would be there? and she confirmed she would. HUGE weight lifted off my shoulders. And FI and I are thrilled to know that we have the support of both of our parents now!
Post # 6
Yay!! She got over the initial surprise/shock that her daughter will not have exactly what she imagined for a wedding. Awesome!
It will all work out for the best; however be prepared to hear some people criticize your choices along the way… but as long as the major players are on board, it’s all good!
Post # 7
Yay! thats great, Im glad it all turned out well
My FMIL was way less than excited about a DW, but it turns out she doesnt like flying. She is gonna make the trip though
Post # 8
@HoneyBear:It was also my mom’s issue with the DW. She had a blast and now talks about travelling together every time we see her!