Post # 1
I am planning a very small Destination Wedding. We (honey and I) are renting a lodge for the entire weekend. We plan on everyone staying at the lodge. Very costly, but I didn’t have much luck on finding some place intimate for such a small party. We will not be having a reception afterwards, we have opted for a private chef to come in and prepare food, for a sit down dinner.
We do not plan on hiring a wedding planner, seems ridiculous for 10 guests. So I am somewhat confused on who I ask to make sure the little things come together. Do I need a planner?
Like who sets up the cake?? Who will cue the music for our dance?? Do we do a rehearsal the day before?? Do you have music for the ceremony??
I don’t want the feel to be stiff and rigid, I would like things to flow without a lot of hinderances.
Any input from those who have done something similiar would be great. I have no clue what I am doing!!
Post # 3
Is there a staff at the lodge or one with just you and guests?
If there is a staff, they should handle cake set up and things like that. If you aren’t really having a DJ or musicians, they may push play on an iPod or something from your dance/ceremony music.
If it’s just you and guests, it gets harder. You have to ask one of those guests to do all that, or hire someone to do it.
Post # 4
Hi Thumpurr, your chef catered dinner is your reception! It’s how you’re thanking guests for witnesses your wedding. Your idea is exactly what I was planning once upon a time – vacation rental, intimate wedding, private chef!
You could hire a day of coordinator (DOC) who can do those things for you.
With so few people I’d probably set up the cake myself. Maybe ask my sister to start the music for the dance. For the ceremony, you could hire a single guitar musician maybe. We actually didn’t have any ceremony music.
Post # 5
@Glasgowbound: No there isn’t any hired help at the lodge. Is it rude to ask a guest to do that? I just don’t want to appear to be cheap. THis place is costing a small fortune to rent. So any money I don’t have to spend, kind of offsets the cost of the venue.
@sienna76: I really like the musician idea. I will have to check on that. I guess since my daughter is the Maid/Matron of Honor, I will see how much I can get her to do….she is a teenager and pretty lazy though. LOL!!
Post # 6
@thumpurr: If your daughter can push play on an iPod, I think that is a very reasonable think to ask her to do. Normally I’m not a fan of asking guests to do things, but this seems so minor and the atmosphere seems intimate enough.
What all would be involved with setting up the cake? Can you set it up prior to the ceremony, like when you’re getting ready?
Post # 7
@sienna76: I am taking everything with me to the lodge that I may need for the cake, and table centerpieces. I plan on haing a cake delivered, so I think that part of that cost is sstting the cake up. But I am not sure. If it isn’t inculded, I am sure I can do it myself. We plan to have the ceremony in the evening, so I should have time during the day to get things done.
I just don’t want to forget something important. I lose sleep over worrying about this stuff. It is just crazy!