(Closed) DW – STDs sent; now we want to elope, will everyone be upset???

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Would you be upset if receiving STD for DW and then B&G elope (still 1 year out to the date)?
    Yes, I would be upset : (9 votes)
    43 %
    No, I wouldn't mind because that what the B&G love to do and we will celebrate with them at home. : (12 votes)
    57 %
  • Post # 3
    3885 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    If I bought an airplane ticket based on your STD or booked time off at work, I’d be really upset.

    Post # 5
    945 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I would say yes, I’d be upset if I had already purchased my plane tickets and made hotel reservations. 

    The thing is you can’t book plane tickets more than 9 months out, at least in my experience anyway. 

    So no, I wouldn’t be upset if the B&G changed their minds. 🙂

    Post # 7
    3769 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    I would be upset to miss out on the chance to celebrate with you if you were really close to me, but I’d get over it.

    Post # 8
    332 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Normally I would say yes, but you sent your Save-The-Date Cards out so far in advance that people have not started planning and so it wouldn’t be a big deal. However, some people might be offended that they were not able to go to your elopment while others (those 6 people) could go. If you were just getting eloped with the 2 of you, people would understand it’s a financial thing, but by allowing 6 or so people only, the others might take it personally. Don’t know how you’d explain that one unless you invited everyone with the premise that there will not be a big wedding with decorations, chairs, free food, etc.


    Post # 10
    1427 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Most airlines don’t open up booking that far ahead. if you decide to cancel the wedding and elope, I’d recommend you tell your guests ASAP.

    Post # 11
    7387 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    Nope, just tell your guests ASAP. And let them know you plan on having an at home celebration. Its too far out of anyone to be up in arms over it.

    Post # 12
    88 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I think you should be fine! I would never be upset or mad if a friend or family member decided to change their mind as long as their happy I’m happy! 

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