(Closed) DW with Home Reception… Dilemma!

posted 8 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I say cancel the candy bar and use that money for your other party.  It’s a lovely (we’re having one too) but ultimately unneccesary expense and that money can be better spend on food and drink. 

Also, since your party is from 3pm-7pm, I don’t think you need tons of food since it’s after lunch and before dinner, people have the chance to eat a full meal on either side of your event so desserts and apps should be all you need. 

Good luck!

Post # 4
837 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

First, I don’t like at home receptions when you have a Destination Wedding wedding – I feel like that is something you give up with you have a Destination Wedding and kind of comes off as gift-grabby.  Why not call it a welcome home party where no gifts are involved and no wedding related stuff is involved?

However, if you insist on having a reception, I think doing it on Sunday is going to seriously limit your guest list with other guests besides his friends due to people having to go to work the next day, etc.  Can his friends take off one Saturday to attend?

And why the crap is your candy bar almost $900??  I would completely NOT have a candy bar if it cost that much.  That is a total waste in my opinion.  Spend the valuable money elsewhere (i.e. food).  Is your guest list full of drinkers?  If not then I would spend more on food than drinks, especially considering the time of day.


Post # 5
655 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

In our extended family, having a party back home is seen as a kind and thoughtful way to celebrate the special occasion without having everyone buy plane tickets. Also, since there is no ceremony that day, no one is obligated to buy a gift, so I don’t think it’s gift-grabby either.

I’d say get rid of the candy buffet. Food and drink are more important than anything else in my eyes for a satisfying party.

Post # 6
3219 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

My family is more into food and around here cash bars are the norm so i say go for good food!


And i am doing a Destination Wedding & hometown reception so obvs i love that idea!

Post # 7
179 posts
Blushing bee

What kind of reception were you thinkin gof having back in Louisville? Would it be appetizers and drinks or are you think of making the food yourselves?

Definitely nix the candy buffet. Do you think that you can accomodate food and drinks for 200 people at only $2900 – $3500? I’m not sure what pricing is like in Louisville but to have something catered for that many people would probably cost more than that. You could feasibly do some sort of bbq get together (which you could prepare on your own w/the help of your family) and make it work. You can also try to cut the number of people on your guest list to help make this budget as well.

Post # 9
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I say cancel the candy bar.

Post # 11
343 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I agree that food & drink should take priority over candy bar (though they are fun!).  As far prioritizing food or drink, ideally of course open bar and plenty of food, but since everyone eats and not everyone drinks, I would say guarantee there is enough food before booze.  Maybe with your candy bar savings you can make it all work.  Sounds fun!! 

PS – hometown receptions/celebrations are NOT gift-grabby, they are totally fun

Post # 13
343 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think that’s a good idea — basically, any free drinks are better than no free drinks!  It’s a great way to get the party started.  The only problem with that set-up is that guests would have no clue as to when it would switch to cash bar & they might be caught off guard (a money cap isn’t exactly something that is easy to announce).  A lot of people have an open bar for a set amount of time and announce the timeframe to guests.  You can figure out an estimation of what the bar tab would be for different lengths of time, what you can afford, and just set it up that.  Seems like that would be a good way to give your guests some free drinks, stay within your budget, and let your guests know what the score is as far as what they’ll have to pay for. For example, first two hours open bar, then cash bar after that.

Post # 15
209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I would definately cancel the candy bar if you’re spending that much on it.  Since you’re doing it as a later sunday reception, you could consider setting it up as heavy hors d’ourvres set up at stations (fruit/fountain station- which would be a cool alternative to the candy bar, sandwich station, chilled shrimp station, meat and cheese station, etc) Guests would have a lot to choose from, it would cut down on cost per plate and you would be able to do lots of different kinds of foods and also pay for the liquor, which is unusual for people to have to pay for the beer. 

Post # 16
1580 posts
Bumble bee

I think you should just get some kegs of beer and bottles of wine. Maybe do a specialty drink that is self-serve, so you don’t have to have a bar tender. I don’t think you need to do a full bar.

I also want to say that if something was scheduled from 3-7, I’d expect to eat a meal unless it was specified only snacks would be served. So make sure you have enough food, or specify. But be careful because aps and hors douevres can be really expensive! You should definitely at least get a quote for a meal to compare.

So I guess I’m voting for spend some money on a limited amount of inexpensive alcohol, and make sure to have enough food 🙂

What type of venue is it? What overall feel are you going for?

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