(Closed) Dwelling Over What Went Wrong

posted 5 years ago in Beehive
Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I can relate to one very specific detail… My hair. I have long thick hair that does not hold a curl when it’s down and I don’t like it up, so I spent months agonizing over what to do with it. I settled for getting a blow out. Since I was getting married in my hometown and couldn’t get ahold of my old hair stylist, I booked at a salon a friend recommended. I told them I wanted to get my hair done for my wedding day. I did not specify that I wanted a blow out… Didn’t think I needed to. So imagine my horror when I sit down in the chair, tell the girl what I want and she says that only booked me for 30 minutes and don’t have time for a blow out. First of all, why would you only give a max of 30 minutes for someone to get their hair done for their wedding day?! She did her best trying to make my hair look the way I wanted (and only charged for the blow out) but it wasn’t what I envisioned. Fortunately I had time to go home, wash out my hair and blow dry it straight in its natural state.

Given the circumstances I’m very happy that I decided to wear my hair straight, but it still kills me sometimes that it wasn’t fancier. Sometimes before I fall asleep I think about it and all these questions run through my head. Why didn’t I tell them I wanted a blow out when I called? Why didn’t I have her curl my hair as I have in the past and see how that looked first? Why didn’t I just tell her to make it smoothe and straight? It kills me when I see brides with the hairstyle I wanted. I’m just glad I can look at my photos and not wince.

What’s ironic is the whole time my DH told me to just wear my hair straight. Would’ve saved a lot of stress if I had listened!

Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Your DJ owes you a big apology. He had one job! One job!!! I’d be pissed about it too. 

Post # 18
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Hun, at the end of the day those things don’t matter.  I get it, you’re upset, but there is literally NOTHING you can do right now to change it.  In 10 years you’ll laugh at the fact that you forgot your bouquet before walking down the aisle.  The DJ things…yeah I can definitely see WHY you are upset, however it definitely isn’t worth dwelling on it.  Focus on the good parts of the day.

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I forgot my bouquet too! πŸ™‚

Just leave your DJ a bad review and move on. Your day was about marrying your husband, and everything else was an “extra.” Try to remind yourself that as long as you ended the day married to your husband, that day was a success. πŸ™‚ Sometimes in life we hope for “moments” that never arrive, even if we plan for them, and sometimes life offers us incredible moments that we never expected and could never have planned. That’s just life. Try to accept that you missed out on those particular moments you wanted but that life will offer you so many more that you never anticipated in the years to come. πŸ™‚

Congratulations on your marriage!

Post # 20
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Helper bee

I agree with the previous posters, especially 

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Mrs. Honeybee.  If you had a bridesmaid ready with your bouquet or you were focusing on remembering it, you may have missed that moment with your dad.  

Post # 22
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I can also relate to a lot of this. During the ceremony (we asked a close friend to officiate, and he’d never done it before) he skipped over the rings exchange part, and we also completely forgot about them. We had to pause and send someone to find the rings, in a different room! Everyone thought it was funny, and I like to think of it as something memorable.

I am, however, still very annoyed at our DJ (our wedding was a year ago). He didn’t play most of the songs we requested, and acted annoyed at my Mother-In-Law for asking for a mother-son dance. I still want to punch him in the face haha. But, what’s done is done. I think everyone had a great time dancing, nevertheless. I have pictures to prove it! So that’s what I’m going to try to focus on, all the good memories and not the bad ones. Weddings aren’t a production where I can control everything.

Post # 23
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2015

OMG I could literally just give you the biggest HUG right now, because I need it too! My wedding was just a couple of weeks ago and I forgot my bouquet in the bridal suite! ARGH It beats me up til this day, until I literally just read on Bee that some brides didn’t want to walk down the aisle with it because it blocked the view of their wedding dress.. so thats the only PLUS side right now haha. I did pretty much hold my bouquet after that, FOR DEAR LIFE, the entire time. My dad walked down the aisle in a walker so I was grabbing onto him with both hands so no one noticed, but of course I did… I mouthed it to my Maid/Matron of Honor who told my planner, who ran back into the room to grab it for me. I also had a picture of it down the aisle! lol.

I was also mad at my photographer for forgetting my enlarged picture frame. I have never been to a wedding that didnt have one at the reception and I can’t believe it wasn’t there. =( come to find out it was my fault, I sent the email to my husband instead of the photographer the week before.

My bridal party had a surprise dance.. and the girls were so nervous about it, that they decided to practice while I was cutting the cake and they consequently missed my first dance with my husband. I would have rather them enjoy the moment of my wedding, than worry about the dance! 

there are other things too but these were the biggest lol. wow who knew just typing these things out would make me a feel a whole lot better? Thanks OP for that =)

Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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justanotherpickybride:  Don’t worry, you’ll get over this soon. I think many brides replay the day and notice where things went wrong. But none of it matters. There’s just a lot of pressure from putting 550 days of planning into 1 single day!

Post # 25
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2015

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Brielle:  I wish I had seen that thread before the wedding!! 

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015 - Beautiful place.

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justanotherpickybride:  Bee I’m so so sorry!!! I know the feeling!!!! My 1 dance with  my husband was cut in half and so as my dance with my father, musics I was so careful to pick, I never got to finish.. And it was like, 3 minutes songs.. Super fast and normal.. As upset as I was about that, not finishing a meaningful song with my dad was the worst.. I had a lot of prob on my wedding day, mind you, I payed my wedding planner to help me out throughout the planning and on the day, he had 2 other wedding on the same day and only told me about it 3 days before my wedding.. I had guestes sent home from the venue, like, they never got inside!!!!! 

Anyways..  to Focus on the great man you married, I’m sure when you see the pics and video you will feel better, that’s what happened to me. i bet you looked gorgeous!!!! πŸ˜ƒβ€οΈπŸ˜˜

Post # 27
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Worker bee

Just curious, did the DJ company ever get back to you? That is so horrible that the DJ didn’t even apologize! I would be blowing up their reviews on Wedding Wire, Facbeook and The Knot! 

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee

Aw, I’m sorry. It sounds like most of these problems were with the DJ, unfortunately, but at least most of them aren’t things that will be memorialized in photos! Hey, I read a thread on another blog recently where the bride’s mother punched her in the face. It could always be worse!

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Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Try and forget the little things that didn’t go to plan. Remember instead all the good bits. I was told by my already-married cousin to write down everything you remember now, before it all fades-it’ll be so good to read back over in a few months time! I was epically bad at having a bouquet, it was sat on the register table in the church til someone brought it out for me after the ceremony, I left it on the stage at our reception when we were doing the formal photos, and my bridesmaids forgot to take theirs to the church so my dad had to! It’s just funny now. And we ended up doing our first dance to a completely different song to the song I thought we would. But we’re married and I spent the day with people I love best and it was amazing.

Post # 30
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

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peridot456:  whoa, I missed that face punching thread! What happened?

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