Post # 1
Hey bees need some more advice. I had my hair trial and at the trial found out the extensions I bought were too light. I was going to buy new ones but my stylist insisted I should dye my hair lighter. She said my hair was a very ashy brown and needed to be warmed up. She also kept repeating that I had a lot of grays that needed to be covered, and that my hair would be much easier to work with if it was dyed. The sylist could not dye it herself because she only does updos and works from her home. She had great reviews and I didn’t have a reason not to trust her.
Well it turns out my virgin hair did not take well to being dyed. I am an extremely red brown and so absolutely hate it. I feel bad for the girl who did the dye because she had to try 3 times to get it lighter. And on the last try it was all red. I told her I wasn’t crazy about it and she said to come back after my business trip and see how I felt about it then.
Im so angry right now. I hate my hair, I hate how it looks, I hate how NOT me it is. I had noooo problems with my graying dark brown hair. And don’t know what I was thinking letting someone talk me into dying it.
I want to send a message to the hair stylist letting her know how upset I am, and that I need the extensions back to try and get new ones or get them dyed. And I need to somehow let her know in a respectful way that I regret listening to her and that I had no issue with my hair.
I am 4 weeks from my wedding and dont know what to do about the stylist who I shouldn’t have listened to and no longer trust. And also my disastrous hair.
Post # 2
On the left is my hair two weeks ago before any dye. The middle is my hair now in my living room, and the right is my hair with sunlight shining on it. My fiancé thinks I’m crazy but I dont like it. Especially in the sunlight.
Post # 3
Would you be able to post a photo of your hair? I’m not a hair stylist but I’m sure that would be helpful for other Bees figure out the best way to help you/give you advice. 🙂
ETA: We posted at the same time! I’m not sure why she told you to change your hair color, I don’t see anything wrong with it. But either way, I really love the new color and I actually thought the photo on the left and the middle photo were the same color!!
Post # 4
I was all upset for you and then the pictures loaded. I don’t see red or disastrous. it looks really pretty.
This might not be the color you wanted, and that sucks and the stylist who sent you off to dye your hair weeks before your wedding is a moron (this is like lesson one, don’t do anything new you can’t take back). But it isn’t awful. It’s pretty.
Post # 5
When you said red, I thought you meant like fire engine red. It really doesn’t look bad at all, but you’re the one who has to be happy with it. I’d get into a salon. Bring your before pictures and tell them you want to get back to that. Make sure you mention that your hair was treated three times by the previous stylist so they know to be gentler with it. Dyeing virgin hair four weeks before your wedding is not the best idea, but it can be fixed.
Post # 6
I’m sorry you don’t like it because that’s what really matters. BUT I think it’s really pretty 🙂
It was pretty before and you certainly didn’t need to dye it like the stylist said, but I do think it has a lot more dimension now.
Post # 7
The color is very pretty and it actually doesn’t look that much different from your virgin hair. Brown dyes often use red colors in them. If you really hate it, you can go to a professional hairdresser and asks that he/she mixes up a color that is either your natural color or this lighter shade, but toning down the red.
Post # 8
- Wedding: April 2007 - City, State
I actually really love how your hair looks now. It’s not that far off from your color and it’s super pretty on you. I don’t see any red at all.
Post # 9
Okay so lesson number one here definetly do not dye your hair for the first time a month before your wedding!
Post # 10
Ok well the first step should have been the stylist dying the extensions to your colour not trying to match your hair to them..grr I’m sorry. Like two people didn’t know what to do?
The extensions being slightly off van give you more depth in your hair colour. But only if it’s slightly off. I agree it doesn’t look that bad and he red tones will no doubt subside by your wedding time but I’d be pissed too.
Post # 11
Tbh, your hair looks great, and really not all that different. I completely understand that it looks different to you and feels uncomfortable, but I love it!
Post # 12
I think your hair is very pretty and I can’t see too much difference from both pics. Though I do agree trying to dye your hair foe the first time could have been disastrous. You could always get a second opinion and maybe repair it a shade darker but might find it goes too dark. Good luck.
Post # 13
I think your hair looks great. However i know what you are saying because I also don’t like red in dyed brunette hair. you should go back and try to get it to be more ashy brown and not so red brown.
Sorry but I don’t really think your wedding stylist is to blame at all. She had an opinion and you chose to listen to it. It is a little risky to dye your hair so close to the wedding.
Post # 14
I think it looks amazing. Not sure whats wrong with it!
Post # 15
The third pic looks very coppery and reddish to me, compared to the first pic.
It doesn’t matter what anyone here thinks, or what your Fiance thinks. What matters is that you feel uncomfortable. And you shouldn’t have to hate your hair on your wedding day.
I would call and ask to speak to the manager. Try not to get emotional. Think ahead of what you want to say and try to keep it concise so that your message is heard. Basically I would ask for a re-do with an experienced stylist, under the supervision of the manager.
If they don’t give you the answer you like, I would do two things: Complain to the Better Business Bureau online (only takes a few minutes to fill out their online form), and go to a different salon to get it fixed.
So sorry this happened to you! Hope you can get it resolved soon!