Post # 1
I’m dying to register – how awesome, shopping, scan guns, picking out your presents, etc. – jackpot. however… FH and I are currently renting an apartment and busting out of the seams. Nothing more will fit! We are planning on buying a house soon after the wedding.
the thing is, I know I can register and store my gifts (though when you’re paying for the wedding and the house all on your own, paying for storage is not high on my list of things to spend $ on). Even still, here’s my other issue – I have no idea what kind of house i’m going to end up with. I don’t know if my bathroom will be green, yellow or pepto-pink! How on earth can I register for towels? Same thing goes for the kitchen… Surely I don’t want to register for red appliances if it’s possible that I’ll end up with a green kitchen (no offense to anyone who has that color scheme working in their kitchen – it’s just not me).
Anyone else in this boat with me? Any suggestions? Do we just bite the bullet and register and then return everything for store credit to use when we buy the house? What happens when Aunt Milly comes over and sees that the red blender that she got us is now yellow?
Post # 3
Don’t worry about Aunt Milly – she won’t remember what she bought you a week after your wedding. Also, she is purchasing something off your registry, which presumably means that the most important thing to her is that you are happy with what she chooses. If she spent a lot of time picking a gift on her own, then she might remember it, but there is always the chance that you will hate it (which is why most people stick to the registry).
Cramming more stuff into a NYC apartment is a recipe for marital discord, so you should only register at stores with liberal return policies and try to register for things like pots and pans that are neutral and can hopefully be stored at an in-laws.
Many friends have done honeymoon registries because of the space issue.
Post # 4
Don’t worry about buying appliances to match your future walls! It’s called paint!
Post # 5
@ Professor – thanks for the insight. You’re right – our family and friends will be happier knowing that we like what we end up with even if it’s not their original gift. Honeymoon registry is an option we’re mulling around. I love it, FH and my mom don’t.
@ July – Thanks – I’m not talking about walls though – I’m talking about counters, tiles, cabinetry, etc. Things that I won’t be able to afford to change for quite some time. It’s one thing if we’d plan on renting for a few more years, but a few months after the wedding, we hope to move into the home that we’ll be in for a long time. I want it to look lovely and coordinated.
It’s just little things like renting we have a double size bed, when we buy a home we hope to buy a queen or king size. do we register for larger sheets and just wait?
Honeymoon registry is looking more and more appealing to me. Just need to convince the FH.
Post # 6
I’m in a similar boat as you. FH and I purchased our home almost two years ago with the idea that the renovations we wanted to do would only take a few months. We are currently living in the dining room (bedroom set is literally set up in dining room) and we are living in about 1/4 of the house. Although I at least know some things about the house, we have not even begun to decorate (because none of the rooms are finished). Registering was very stressful because I felt like i was putting the cart-before-the horse so to speak. I ended up not putting things like bedding on the registry, but I did pick out the big stuff like appliances, dishes, pots/pans, etc. In regards to registering for a honeymoon (and this is just my opinion) it seems like that is a good option for couples that already have everything they need for home. It doesn’t sound like you are in that situation. While there are some things you may not be able to pick out now, I think it would be best to register for the things you are going to have to buy yourself someday anyway. I would hate to finally get into a house and then have to buy the things I needed bit-by-bit. If I were you I would maybe take an inventory of all the things you know that you’ll need and then think about how long it would take to acquire all of it on your own.
Post # 7
Whe we registered we put stuff on our registry in colors we’ll want to have once we own a house. Most of it turned out to be neutral stuff anyway but we did register for some color stuff. I suggest registering at Bed, Bath & Beyond because they have an AWESOME return policy so if you get something in green and your house ends up being red (and it’s not too long after the wedding) you can exchange it with no problems, OR return it for a Gift Card to use later… That way people think they’rebuying you something you’ll use but maybe you won’t. LOL You could also just have your bridal party and parents spread the word that you’re going to be buying a house soon and that gift cards would be appreciated. 🙂
Post # 8
Lots of appliances come in stainless steel, black, or white, which would look good with basically any color scheme you end up with in the house. For the bathroom, I looooove plain fluffy white towels– they always look so fresh and clean, and you don’t have a problem with the color fading in the wash or anything. For sheets, I would definitely register for the larger sheets, and just wait to use them with the new bed.
What about picking a shop with a great gift card policy (no fees, expiration dates, etc.), and then making it known that you’d prefer gift cards, rather than actual physical blenders and such. The returning for store credit idea sounds fine, as long as the store is not going to give you any trouble for that.
Post # 9
@FMrs.BLT – Good luck with your renovations!!!! We’ve given thought to the honeymoon registry, but we’re not going on a proper honeymoon until well after the wedding b/c of work schedules and house hunting. Right after the wedding we’ll go to the Carribbean for a few days to sun ourselves, but the actual big trip won’t be until October.
@ Grumpybear & jhphi – we will definitely be looking for places with generous return policies and no expiration GCs.
Thanks all – my anxiety is definitely lessened. 🙂