(Closed) E-invites? Are we crazy?

posted 7 years ago in DIY
Post # 3
1433 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

@GreenDream: It makes it very, very informal… it excludes older guests that don’t use email, it doesn’t make it clear who is actually invited… you don’t set the tone for your wedding

Honestly if I got a link to an e-invitation, I would think that either the couple is too cheap to buy an invite, or else they invited too many people, and didn’t have enough invites, and I was on the B-list… hence didn’t get a real paper invitation. 

If you’re worried about costs, I would just do Vistaprint.  It’s cheap and it’ll be there very quickly.  Check out their wedding stuff here.  You should be able to get 100 invitations and 100 RSVPs for quite cheap.  And they look great too.  Best paper choice is linen finish. 

Post # 4
2731 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@GreenDream: I can see your reasons for not wanting to go the paper invitation route, but I think people would still really like to have them. I don’t know how many older guests you are inviting, but I know I know some older people who don’t use the internet/email, so that might be something to think about. E-vites don’t feel very wedding-y to me, either, but that’s just my opinion.

You know what will work best for your wedding and your guests πŸ™‚

Post # 6
426 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I like the idea. It’s something that is definitely becoming more popular, and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. Some of the previous points can be easily tackled (like “not making it clear who’s invited” – you can def find a way to do that), although I do wonder about any elderly or not computer-savvy guests. If you don’t have any of those, awesome! If you do, will you send them paper invites?

I think you can definitely make it work. More power to you!

Post # 7
567 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@GreenDream: I understand why you would want to do this. But you have to rememeber how many people who don’t have access to email, computer, and not that tech savvy. Personally I would like to touch and feel the invite. They are such a big part of defining the wedding you may want to rethink this.

Post # 9
2589 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012


Not crazy at all.

Its also not “informal” or “cheap”. Its just different – but increasingly popular.

Two of my friends have done it this year, and we plan to do the same, for environmental reasons.

I would print up simple paper invites for your older guests who might not get it, but anyone under 30 or so is used to, and may even prefer electronic communication.


Post # 10
1917 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

It just seems lazy to me and like you are having a really casual wedding.  I would probably opt to get something printed.

Post # 11
11355 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@GreenDream: You have your whole life to do informal, casual, electronic invitations for everything from open-houses to birthday parties to backyard barbecues.  This is your wedding. I would encourage you to think about this further. I agree with the reasons that @eagle: provided, especially the part about making clear who, precisely, is invited to your wedding. Having an outer AND an inner envelope for an invitation is the best way to make crystal clear that the invitation is being extended only to Miss Jane Doe, and not her “plus one” guest or to Mr. and Mrs. John Smith only, and not their three children as well.

Post # 12
81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I did it because we  had a 3 month engagement lol. As long as you make them on a good program or website, I don’t see anything Lazy or Informal about them. It took me a couple of hours to make mine from scratch on Illustrator. and As much as a pain in the butt it was I personalized all of them. We only had a party of 100 but still. And for those elders who do not have email (which was only like 3) I printed it out and hand delivered. I think E-Vites would be less informal but sending actual files of the Invite is just fine. and it saved me tons of money. And it was easiest to get everyones rsvp back through email.

Post # 13
772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

We did this.  It was very “us” and people LOVED them.  We used paperless post, and we bought a pack of 40 paper invites from Michaels we used for people who were

1) technology challenged

2)  Fuddy duddies who would be offended by the lack of paper 

It worked great!  The nice thing was that as we ran into people we suddenly realized we had forgotten, we could just add them. 

Our wedding is very conciously about including and doing ONLY the things we feel are important, rather than following convention.  We are extremely busy and involved in our community and the emphasis for us is on people attending, not in following an etiquitte guide.  The wedding will not be even close to the most “important day” of our lives, and will likely not even be the biggest party of event of our lives since we do a lot of fundraisers and other events.

I will mention that the majority of our guest list is over the age of 60–but they are very engaged volunteers and activists and most are on facebook.  This is not a typical crowd, but if it is your crowd I say go for it!

By The Way, paperless post allows you to set how many you are inviting, and address the “envelopes” so it is clear that there is a plus one or not. 

Post # 14
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I can see a few issues with this. Most people have email, but they don’t always check it very often. My sister changes her email address pretty often and my Fiance might check it every few months or so. Even if you are having all tech savvy, younger guests, they might not always be reachable by email or might not see your invite until it’s too late. Then there is always the issue of spam filters…

Post # 15
1284 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Personally… I agree with those who say that it’s informal. 

That having been said… do what you want! It’s your wedding! πŸ™‚

Post # 16
2589 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think calling someone’s decision “lazy” goes beyond constructive critique to just being rude…especially when budgets are concerned.


OP – check out “Paperless Post” –  I’ve received 2 or 3 invites for very formal events using it – it has a little envelope opening animation thing and can be set up for very formal, elegant looking invitations – you can even pick envelope liner πŸ™‚

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