Post # 1
So my two best friends want to throw my fiance and I an Engagement Party in november……problem is the stupid guest list. I’d like for some of my family (and his) to meet some of my friends before the wedding (I know there will be a shower too, but that’s just laides). But it’s hard to only invite a few friends and family when A) our friends are a large tight knit group all in one city and B) we both have huge families. We don’t want to offend anyone (for example if we only invited a few aunts/uncles and not all), and we also don’t want this to be a mini wedding (ESPECIALLY since my two friends want to foot the bill.) We can’t seem to figure out who to invite. Seems as if we are trying to decide between either just friends and my parents (his parents are on the west coast and can’t make it) OR invite basically all of our friends and family and hope that not everyone comes.
Post # 3
Can you possibly just do a friend party, and maybe host a low key get to know each other’s families party later?
Post # 4
You should probably start by asking your friends who are throwing you the party how many people they are thinking about. They may have a place in mind already and space constraints can affect the guest list. Also, since they are footing the bill, they should have an idea already how much they can spend and the guest list affects that.
Post # 5
I had this same problem and decided to invite only our parents and only our friends meaning in our age group. I still ended up with 50 people invited and about 40 came. Don’t forget you can do a couples shower so you can include male family/friends of you and your parents
For the bridal showers I’m having two. One with his side and one with my side that way it helps to break it up for the hostess
Post # 6
I too was going to suggest having 2 parties – let your friends host one for friends, and then host one yourselves later (or let a relative host) for your families.